Having a baby is a total life-changer. No more going out with your friends-- no more loud late nights. Just make sure you're ready to give up a huge part of yourself-- and that your selfless enough to be a dedicated mother. It's hard work, and poses an entire lifestyle change. Your life will no longer be your life-- it will be your child. If you aren't sure, then do not have a child-- you have the option to protect yourself-- and if you aren't ready then take the chance. If your boyfriend is a wonderful as you think he is, he will respect your decision. Best of luck.

I agree with the other. If you do decide you want to have a baby, do you and your boyfriend have full time jobs and a home to raise the child in? Are you going to go to college? One thing I noticed is that you said your boyfriend doesnt want you on the pill and your family does. Well, your family is prob worried about you and the child that would be coming into the world, but its your body, so your boyfriend really shouldn't have any objection to you being on the pill, especially if he loves you. Also, have you two thought about marriage? And if the line we arent ready for that comes to mind, you are definately not ready to raise a child together. I don't mean to nag, just want to be sure that you are thinking everything through, not only thinking of yourself, but of an innocent child that has no say in the matter and will depend on you for everything. I wish you the best of luck in everything!

Thanks for the help. Yeah he has his own apt. And we both have jobs. I really dont go out. At first I thought I wanted to have a child because I was lonely but I realized that it was selfish for me to bring someone else into the world for my own feelings. That was when I was like 16 though. I honestly do feel like I have grown and I am attending college in january so everything will fall in place. I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. He upsets me sometimes but what relationship dosent have probs. Hes still my heart. I never had a dad and he knows how it feels to have one so I know even if we didnt work out he would still be there for his child.
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Its great that he has a job and an apartment, but do you live with him? I would seriously consider marriage before the kids come, too many people these days do it the other way around. If you cant afford to get married, you really cant afford a baby. Does he feel the same way about you as you feel about him? You should definately be ready for a huge commitment if you believe you are ready for a baby. Especially if you are going to college soon. Even with financial aid, tuition can be well over $500 a semester and that is for a cheaper tech college. And wic doesnt buy diapers... So I guess as well as being emotionally stable, you need to be absolutely sure that you and your bf are financially stable. Yeah, you can have a baby without a lot of money but its better for everyone if you have some to spare. Its great that you are asking advice before jumping in with both feet, but I hope you seriously take the advice to heart. But if you do decide to go ahead and have the baby, I can tell that you will love it and try to give it everything. Another thing to think about is your family. Do you still live with them? Would you plan to move in with your bf? Your mom has already raised her children and though she would prob do everything she could, its not fair really for her to be woken up every two hours by a hungry baby :) plus I can't even imagine how hard it would be to take care of a baby while holding down a job and school. Brain overload. Again, I wish you luck and the best!

Nicolem