-one time, he told me to leave his place at nite, so I gathered my things
had a bag of clothes,stuff, and I was walking out
i did not argue, I did what he said
and then he says that anything in his house,or car belongs to him
so he grabbed my bag and he took some of my things and threw it up on his roof!

-another time he grabbed my purse, we fought over that, as to replace the contents in my wallet is a pain, and time consuming, may have even cost me money to replace certain forms of id, etc
and I really liked the purse too, it was expensive to me, and the strap broke off, and I got my purse and the contents of it

-once in his car, he was driving, he was upset with me about a potential break up, and he pulled into an area that was far walking distance from my home, he said, you need to leave your purse here and get out of my car
i had to argue my position, as I did not walk home,i was in no mood to deal with this.
Yet prior to this, things were fine?

-he spit in my face once.

-one time when we drove hours from where we lived for a getaway trip
things were fine and fun prior, and then he starts asking who I cheated on him with
when honest to god, there was, is, no one.
He was driving me crazy, asking over and over

-it was horrible, that nite as I slept, he took my purse, shoes
and I started to freak out, as I was wondering how I was going to get home with not a penny to my name on me.

He then showed me the items, but he watched me look for them
then things were ok, I dismissed them so I could get a ride home
ugh, I did not memorize a calling card number, so I was at a real vulnerable situation without my purse.

I did not grow up with abuse, I never dated anyone prior that acted like this. This experienced shocked me, he was a nice "regular" guy when I first met him....
Yet this was abuse wasn't it?