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Q: Please Help I Need Advise!!!
asked by: Trina252 on December 2nd, 2003
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Over a year ago I met my ex-boyfriend. It started out as us being "friends with benifits" but we started developing feelings for each other so we tried the relationship thing. To my surprise it lasted longer than I expected during the time we were together I asked him if he loved me an he said no he had love for me. After we broke up he found another girlfriend and they are still togther. When they first started going together behind her back we were still having sex but it was only like once a month, but now me and him have a tighter relationship than him and her (which means we have sex a lot more often). A few months ago he told me that he loves me and he doesn't want to be with her but, recently he found out that she is pregnant. He really wants to be apart of the baby life but he's scared that if he leave her while she is pregnant to be with me it will create a big problem. I really don't know what to do I felt bad for letting the situation go this far but now I feel terrible that the baby now will be involved. But I just can't let him go!
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nikki_caro
replied on December 2nd, 2003
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There is no such thing as you cant let him go. Yes you can and you should. It never seemed like he loved you, but he loved the sex. If he had another girlfriend you should have left it alone. But you kept taking him back and only having sex. Thats not a relationship but a booty call. And now shes pregnant. How do you know, hes going to be committed to you and not have sex with the other girl? A baby changes everything. Youve given him sex from the very begining and it looks like he gets it once he asks. You should really let him be and let him be a father. It will interfere in the future and all it will cause is drama. And its not worth it. And if you stay, the other girl will give him an ultamatem and say "its us or her" and he's going to choose them and you will be very hurt. You should cut it short now, before emotions get more twisted in, than they already are.
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kboutah
replied on December 2nd, 2003
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I agree. This is an definately an unfortunate situation for everyone involved but I think you should try to put your feelings aside for this person. A baby changes everything. You should let them come to terms w/ all this and back off for now. Who knows what the future will hold but whatever is meant to be will be.
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saturn24
replied on December 3rd, 2003
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It sounds to me like he said he loved you so you would keep having sex with him. Look at it from his point of view. If you keep this up, he has a steady relationship, a child, someone to take care of his child, and someone to have sex with on the side. Plus, if he would leave her and stay with you, do you really want to spend your life with someone who you know will cheat? If he cheated on her, he will cheat on you. You can do better than that.
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fairysweetie
replied on February 15th, 2004
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Read "should I Stay With Him Or Not!!!!!!"
Please read my post for "should I stay with him or not!!!!!!!
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nadheem
replied on March 9th, 2009
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I need help
i usually abuse my wife in many ways i need to get out of this freaking behaviour so please help me
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JavaMissus
replied on March 10th, 2009
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What do you do?....How do you abuse her?...Unless you speak about what you do, we cannot help you.....

Caroline
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Rhi1991
replied on March 11th, 2009
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abuse?
am. . . U abuse her? ha i would like to hear more about this. . . . ahem


Anyway:S i was in a similar situation myself Trina but the other woman did not get pregnant thank god. am basically what you need to do is come absolutely clean with how you exactly feel about this guy. I know its a tricky situation, but it cant go on like this, she will get very hurt and it could turn out 10 times worse if nothing is done and ye two are still having fun Smile As great as you feel when you are with him. . and beleive me i know the feeling, Just sit down adn speak from your heart to this guy. And see where it goes from there.

Good luck Smile
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Rhi1991
replied on March 11th, 2009
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abuse?
am. . . U abuse her? ha i would like to hear more about this. . . . ahem


Anyway:S i was in a similar situation myself Trina but the other woman did not get pregnant thank god. am basically what you need to do is come absolutely clean with how you exactly feel about this guy. I know its a tricky situation, but it cant go on like this, she will get very hurt and it could turn out 10 times worse if nothing is done and ye two are still having fun Smile As great as you feel when you are with him. . and beleive me i know the feeling, Just sit down adn speak from your heart to this guy. And see where it goes from there.

Good luck Smile
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