Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Durham,North Carolina
Please Help I Need Advise!!! Posted: 12-02-03 00:36am
Over a year ago I met my ex-boyfriend.
It started out as us being "friends with
benifits" but we started developing
feelings for each other so we tried the
relationship thing. To my surprise it
lasted longer than I expected during the
time we were together I asked him if he
loved me an he said no he had love for me.
After we broke up he found another
girlfriend and they are still togther.
When they first started going together
behind her back we were still having sex
but it was only like once a month, but
now me and him have a tighter relationship
than him and her (which means we have sex
a lot more often). A few months ago he
told me that he loves me and he doesn't
want to be with her but, recently he found
out that she is pregnant. He really wants
to be apart of the baby life but he's
scared that if he leave her while she is
pregnant to be with me it will create a
big problem. I really don't know what to
do I felt bad for letting the situation go
this far but now I feel terrible that the
baby now will be involved. But I just
can't let him go!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 12-02-03 19:11pm
There is no such thing as you cant let him
go. Yes you can and you should. It never
seemed like he loved you, but he loved the
sex. If he had another girlfriend you
should have left it alone. But you kept
taking him back and only having sex.
Thats not a relationship but a booty call.
And now shes pregnant. How do you know,
hes going to be committed to you and not
have sex with the other girl? A baby
changes everything. Youve given him sex
from the very begining and it looks like
he gets it once he asks. You should
really let him be and let him be a father.
It will interfere in the future and all
it will cause is drama. And its not worth
it. And if you stay, the other girl will
give him an ultamatem and say "its us or
her" and he's going to choose them and you
will be very hurt. You should cut it
short now, before emotions get more
twisted in, than they already are.
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kboutah
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2003 Posts: 13
Posted: 12-02-03 20:10pm
I agree. This is an definately an
unfortunate situation for everyone
involved but I think you should try to put
your feelings aside for this person. A
baby changes everything. You should let
them come to terms w/ all this and back
off for now. Who knows what the future
will hold but whatever is meant to be will
be.
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saturn24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2003 Posts: 205 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa
Posted: 12-03-03 00:19am
It sounds to me like he said he loved you
so you would keep having sex with him.
Look at it from his point of view. If
you keep this up, he has a steady
relationship, a child, someone to take
care of his child, and someone to have sex
with on the side. Plus, if he would
leave her and stay with you, do you really
want to spend your life with someone who
you know will cheat? If he cheated on
her, he will cheat on you. You can do
better than that.
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fairysweetie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2004 Posts: 17 Location: canada
Read "should I Stay With Him Or Not!!!!!!" Posted: 02-15-04 03:26am
Please read my post for "should I stay
with him or not!!!!!!!
