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Q: Need Advice Asap!!! Confused
asked by: Kaylee7 on September 21st, 2005
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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. He is not legally divorced due to money situations and has a 3 yr. Old child. I am in college. Dont have long left, but just moved into house with friends and my parents still support me. My bf is getting a new job and it will pay well. I just found out yesterday that I am 4 wks preg. I am scared and I have had one abortion and I never thought I would do that. My ex and I had a bad relationship and I would never put my child through that. Please dont criticize me on here, I just really need some help. My bf wants to get the pill because he thinks we are not ready for this child. I dont want to do that, but maybe he is right. He can hadley support himself and he is living with his parents at the moment. I need help asap!!!! This past couple of weeks I have drank and taken my percription meds and I feel like I have already caused problems... Tell me what you think
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ali_425
replied on September 24th, 2005
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If you want to keep this baby its your decision, not your boyfriends. Dont let anyone talk you into something that you dont want to do. U'll regret it in the end....Also, about taken meds and drinking. You should deff. Stop if u havent already, but deff. Talk to your doctor about that. Goodluck.
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fatfamily02
replied on September 24th, 2005
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Please dont abort the baby, dont let anyone talk you into ending your pregnancy.

Good luck
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Kittykatus
replied on October 14th, 2005
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Do what both your head and yourheart feels right.

Good luck and don't be pressured by anybody what to do...Like fatfamily02 said don't let anyone talk you into it
xx
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messyjessie
replied on October 14th, 2005
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Making a Decision
Go with your heart here and don't feel you have to listen to anyone else.
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messyjessie
replied on October 14th, 2005
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Making a Decision
Go with your heart here and don't feel you have to listen to anyone else.
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Unbreakable55
replied on October 17th, 2005
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Hey, there. Im in a situation kinda similar to that. But I had two abortions and me and my boyfriend been together for a year and seven months. There was never nobody else in the picture. We were young and still are. Im only 18 and he's 19 and we both have bright futures ahead of us, and I regret making that decision to kill an innocent poor child. So im tellin you this: follow your heart. Do the right thing. If you feel like you can handle it on your own then go ahead. Abortion is not an option. Im pretty sure you're an adult and you can make decisions on your own. Just really think about it. What would jesus do? I don't want you to end up in a situation like we are. Im not sure if I can get pregnant again. Follow your heart. What if your parents did that to you or a sibling. Im a witness. Its not right. Everybody deserves a chance to live. If u decide to keep it im pretty sure that if your boyfriend loves you he will be by your side. So its your decision not his. You have to go through 9 hard months of pain plus the labor. I hope I helped you out at least a little. Follow your heart mama. Oh by the way. Im francina 4rm miami! :?
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dcarter
replied on October 19th, 2005
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Whatever decision you make should be what you want, not what is expected of you. You have to do what is right for you and your unborn child. Think about all of your options before you jump the gun. Good luck and god bless. Let us know how everything goes for you.
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blessedmommy
replied on October 19th, 2005
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Remember this, a child is a blessing not a curse. Trust me as soon as you see your little one come out of you, you will realize that it is worth it. Don't make another mistake. Take it as a second chance to be a mother that god is giving you. And like someone else said earlier. If your bf really loves you, he will be with you all the way! I have two beautifull girls and now I am expecting a boy, and you know what, I never imagined that I could be this happy.
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blessedmommy
replied on October 19th, 2005
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Remember this, a child is a blessing not a curse. Trust me as soon as you see your little one come out of you, you will realize that it is worth it. Don't make another mistake. Take it as a second chance to be a mother that god is giving you. And like someone else said earlier. If your bf really loves you, he will be with you all the way! I have two beautifull girls and now I am expecting a boy, and you know what, I never imagined that I could be this happy.
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Boudica
replied on October 24th, 2005
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hi, it sounds like you're going through a hard time right now but make sure you do what you want to do...Not what others force upon you.

I don't know your reasons for your previous abortion but you should have realised that if you weren't ready for a baby you should use protection properly. As this has happened again, you really need to think long and hard about it....If you decide not to have the baby then adoption is another option that allows the baby the chance of a new beginning.
Babies are blessings, even if you don't want children, other families are longing for a child but cannot conceive.

Good luck.
Boudica
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jma1
replied on October 26th, 2005
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Dont kill the baby, there are plenty of resources out there to help you raise a child. If you dont want the responsibility-put it up for adoption. There are so many good families out there dying for a child. I dont think you have caused harm yet, but if you continue taking pills and drinking you will. Not to seem pushy I know a very well off family that wants a child but cant have one. They have been trying for years!!!! I am a mother and it is the best thing that could of ever happened to me. It saved my life. I was on drugs, drinking and partying and I found out I was pregnant. I quite everything right away. The love I have for my daughter is undescribable. My heart aches for her every waking moment, she is my joy and life. She makes me smile on the worst of days and warms my heart even when she is bad. Please give the baby a chance!
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fragile_angel_138
replied on November 27th, 2005
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All a baby needs is love. And although your situation may not be ideal for a baby right now if you and your boyfriend love each other you can get through it. But dont do it if you dont feel its right. And as far as the 'already causeing problems' -go to your doctor, get checked out and ask him about it
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soon2b
replied on December 1st, 2005
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No one can tell you weather you should or shouldn't this is purly your choice but if you dont want to go through abourtion there are other options. Have you spoken to your family about this? As for drinking, it's not good. I think you should sit down and talk with your family or maybe a best friend. If you want you can talk to me just pm me or email me. It always helps to talk
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