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asked by: xymindy on September 19th, 2005

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Hey...
Im 18 years old and a virgin. I give and take oral sex to/from my boyfriend. My poblem is....That whenever he tries fingering me, my vagina hurts like hell. I started shaving my pubic hair an year ago and my pubic region becomes a lil' hard after I shave. Is it a problem in me or is it something else, because even when my boyfriend licks me, my vagina hurts, I dont know if I cud hav an orgasm at that time, but the most wet ive got was a few weeks back when my boyfriend was kind of rubbing his penis against my vagina, now again, I dont get even close to an orgasm that way now. Fingering the most hurtful thing, when my boyfriend tries to finger me, my vagina starts hurting bad n I cant take it. I usually masturbate using a pillow, the humping thing and sometimes fingering, but thats rarely. Can you please help me?
Thanx

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Tylanas

replied on September 19th, 2005

Especially eHealthy

It sounds like you probably need to feel yourself out down there by yourself, like when you're in the shower or in bed or something, that way you can figure our how to slide your fingers inside of yourself in a way that doesn't hurt. Then, you can show him :)

sliding your fingers inside can be painful if you're dry; that's why I suggest doing it in the shower, after some gentle clitoral stimulation (use a washcloth if using your own finger is too much!) to get "wet", you need to get horny, and that's that.

msbradford

replied on September 19th, 2005

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Re: Question

If you give and recieve oral sex then you are not a virgin sweetie...You just havent had vaginal sex...

Tylanas

replied on September 19th, 2005

Especially eHealthy

That totally depends on your definition of virgin. If she considered vaginal sex the only way to become a non-virgin, then she is still a virgin. That's what I believe too, although it gets a little grey in the area of anal sex. However, most women aren't going to have anal sex as their very first kind if sexual intercourse ever. I recieved oral sex long before I had vaginal sex, and I felt that I was still a virgin after oral sex becuse i'd never had a penis inside my vagina. It totally depends on what the person who is having the sexual encoutner believes.

xymindy

replied on September 20th, 2005

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Ok ile try that, but why does it hurt when he licks my vagina...??
Is it ok that it hurts coz den it'll give me an orgasm...Like first pain and then pleasure??

Tylanas

replied on September 20th, 2005

Especially eHealthy

He may be licking too roughly; tell him to be more gentle. It sounds like you're extremely sensitive, so he doesn't need to smash your vagina with his tongue!

angel6932

replied on September 20th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Re: Question

msbradford wrote:

if you give and recieve oral sex then you are not a virgin sweetie...You just havent had vaginal sex...

i desagree! For a long time I thought that to untill I meet my husband who gave and receved. At first I didnt think he was but I know that he was. Well all I am saying is that is your oppioun.

He really maybe doing it all to hard. I agree you need to find out what you like yourself. I suggest the shower too.

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