Very Scared --- Please Read And Respond :(

Hello,

i was recently married and had a baby. I have been suffereing from a sort of mid-life crisis from these major life changes (not to justify what I did), however I did do something bad, which I regret and will never do again.

I met up with an old friend (girl) and I open mouth kissed this girl for a few (5?) minutes, and did end up "fingering" her for about the same amount of time. I have impacted wisdom teeth which do puss up at times ( I do need to see dentist on this), though I am not sure of their condition at this time. I also am a habitual nail biter, and often "rip" or tear skin around the corner of my finger or cuticle area. I think at this time I had red -- either open with blood, or initial-scab on part of my cuticle, (howver, blood was not dripping down my finger). The whole episode (time we were near each other) did not exceed 10 minutes. I never removed any of my clothes, there was no actual intercourse.

It has been 30 days and now my wife has flu-like symptoms, she has experienced (for about a week) headaches, sore throat, runny nose / stuffieness, and now just started having stomache pain / diarreha... I have recently begun experiencing headaches / muscle achyness, joint pain, swollen lymph nodes (that hurt in neck chin), loose stool (worsening for about a week) and now diarrhea, and a 'cold' sensation in my throat and chest when taking deep breaths.

I do not know the status of the girl, and so I am assuming she is infected. I have gone to the state health department for rapid test at about 25 days (i realize it is not definitive until after 3 months), and it did come out negative...

I regret what I have done, and I surely will not do this again. I can live with having to pay for my own mistakes, but I cannot bear to think that my wife and _baby_ will suffer becasue of my on stupidity/insanity.

Half of what I read says these symptoms are a sign that I am infected, but the person at the clinic basically said that I didn't really even need to take the first test. I've also been told that there is only 1 reported case of transmission through kissing and zero through "fingering" there seems to be conflicting information everywhere. Please plase please shed some light on my probability of exposure, infection, both based on text book/internet "facts" and what your feelings are given your experiences and observations.

I am eagerly (and nauseously) await a response...

Please please help me.
(thank you)
-veryveryscared