Ummm some donts are, dont slobber, dont wear to much lip balm. The first kiss will be a bit weird because she has her own style and you have yours(even if u think u dont). But after a couple kisses you get to a comfy middle where u will both enjoy it. U can use tongue if u like(i use tongue most of the time). If u have no idea whats going on just go with her style for awhile. Hope this helps.