Joined: 17 Sep 2005 Posts: 3 Location: New York city
Can U Guys Help Me Out Plz? :'( Posted: 09-17-05 08:01am
I have a friend who I think is bulimic and
this has been going on for a while and I
dont kno wut to do its a really touchy
subject to just rush into but its wierd
because she gives me like hints in a way
so should I just go in and try to talk to
her about it or should I just wait? Also
recently she said something about her
throat bleeding can that be a affect of
the bulimia? Pllz help me out thanks guys
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Miss_KellieAnne
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2005 Posts: 120 Location: Australia
Posted: 09-17-05 08:39am
Hey
its so great that you care about your
friend so much.
Is she your best friend? I think you
should just go ahead and talk to her, you
have nothing to lose.
Just be slow, gentle and patient with her
and see if you can do anything to help.
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lostoyou
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 170 Location: Ireland
Posted: 09-17-05 11:16am
You really are a great friend to care
about her so much. I have lost most of my
friends because of my eating disorder.
You are right, it is a very touchy subject
and should be handled with a lot of care
and compassion. What kind of hints has
she been giving you?
Her throat bleeding could be an effect of
making herself sick.
Alot of people who are bulimic can be very
ashamed of their behaviour and so will
find it very difficult to talk about it or
even admit it to anyone.
An eating disorder is not just about what
your like around food, it has alot to do
about how you think and feel about
yourself which is usually very negative.
An eating disorder is a way to cope with
life, people don't know what other way to
cope and so they use food as a means of
control over their lives but they do not
know what begins to take over your life
and soon will become your life.
If I were you I would approch her but if
she is not willing to talk about it I
think you should respect that. I would
really reccomend that she gets help
because this is a very hard thing to
recover from on your own. If her throat
is bleeding then she should really see a
doctor plus making yourself sick can have
so many other affects medically, it is
very dangerous and can be life threating
but that is in very extreme cases but it
does happen.
If your friend was to get help it would be
of so much benefit to her and all those
who care for her.
You see after awhile the person suffering
from the ed can distance him or herself
from those who care about them, they can
change in the way the behave around people
but its not that they don't care for them,
its just their way to protect themselves
and their behaviours. She could get
scared if she realises that you know what
she is going and she might try to push you
away. I did that to many people.
Having an eating disorder can be very
lonely and very isolating.
She needs to realise that she is not a
victim, she is suffering from somthing she
has to chose whether to get help for or
not.
At the end of the day its her choise but
it is a good idea to let her know that you
are there for her and you care about her.
Its important that she knows that you are
her friend and that you will be there for
her even if she doesn't realise it, she
does have people who care for her and she
is loved.
I hope everything goes well. Write and
tell us how it went k.
Take care!
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irishamethyst
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 75 Location: Ireland
Posted: 09-18-05 11:28am
I would approach your friend gently. If
you just tell her that you are concerned
about her, and that if there is ever
anything she would like to talk about that
you are there.
I told a good friend of mine some years
back, but after that I felt so much shame,
and got scared, that I started pushing her
away. Thankfully, she stuck with me
throughout - not many would have put up
with what I put her through. She was
truly my angel sent down from heaven :).
Whatever happens, I would advice you not
to push it, and to respect her wishes
though.
