I started to see a girl I had been keen on for a while. She told me her ex had bashed her, was moody all the time, had sexualy abused her many times, and that he was bipolar.
Things were really going well between us, it was like a fresh start for her and she seemed really happy to be with me. I easily fell in love with her, feeling the most happiest and positive ive ever felt in my life. But then he called her one day and told her he was suicidal, so she went to see him, to make sure he was ok, and got bashed and raped. I had never been in this kind of situation before and I did what I thought any loving person would do and offered her my support. Well, after a while of thinking things were progressing she ended up cheating on me with him and has now totally cut me off, saying that she still loves him, and part of her belongs to him. I gave her my heart did all I could to support her and encourage her to get counciling, but she seems stuck in this destructive cycle of abuse (it had been going on for over 4 years). It is extremely difficult to be in this situation, and have been dragged down so low that I even tried antidepressants (zoloft), but they made me a lot worse (even more depressed). I have been seeing a councilor myself, and its good, but letting go of my feelings for this girl is very very hard. Im worried she might get really hurt by him, but there is nothing I can do. I feel so helpless. He is around 26 years old and she is only 22. I am 32

ps. I posted this in the abusive relationships thread as well, but feel it also has relevance in this one too, being bipolar related.