Moral arguments aside, I don't think it is right to judge someone and say that threesomes are just wrong so you shouldn't do it.

I think it depends on how both members of the couple view sex. If you view it as a means to pleasure, and you are absolutely sure that both people in the relationship view sex this way, then what's wrong with having a threesome?

However, if one partner views sex as an emotional connection and not simply physical pleasure, the thought of the other wanting a threesome could seriously hurt that person.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but I think it is very very important to be absolutely sure that both partners feel good about it before going into it and that both partners share the same attitude toward sex. And also, it is important for a partner not to feel pressured into something they aren't comfortable with just because they want to please the other person. A relationship is about two people caring for each other, not just making sure they get what they want. And I totally agree that there are millions of ways to make sex exciting between two people. Toys, videos, food, games, new positions every month, role playing, whatever helps.

Just my opinion.

so if both people in a relationship are content and secure with one another, and decice to go fourth with a 3 some or 4 someone. and let's just say it continues for quite some time. now one of the partners starts having feelings for the other person, then where do you turn? for every action there's a reaction. in reality it can happen and i'm sure it has happend. and these people claim they were both secure in there relationship to allow the 3 or 4 something. now there can be a good good chance that this secure relationship can end. what if this secure couple have several children. now they screwed up there lives because of this agreed secure decision.be careful for what yu wish and go fourth with. it could come back to haunt you for a very long time.

Well if that happens then it's still their choice and their right to do so.

i dont see a prob with having a 3some but that is for me personaly. i had a 3some before my oldest was born basically me and another girl went at it and my man watched then he joined in it wasa great. now my husband (not the one from the 3some ) likes to watch girl on girl and i told him what ive done in my past and he said he wouldnt mind watching me and another go at it but he doesnt want to do anything with the other women just me so when me and the other lady are done then he wants her to go then him and i go at it. but to each their own hun good luck only you can make the right choice for you not any one else.