Well if you want to spice up your sex life, try different positions! There's a whole hell of a lot you can do with just two people; if you're doing the same position over and over, look up different positions!

If you're bored with how you have sex, that's the fault of you two. Be more creative.

Add foods, flavored lube, toys, props... There's a lot you can do before trying a threesom. I'm not sure how I feel about threesomes. I'm leaning towards a no, simply because I get jealous easily. And it'd have to be one hot dude who'd join us.

My guy just asked this of me and I was a little hurt. We are both in our mid 40's . I am not afraid to try new things in fact there really isn't anything we won't try . But having someone share this with us just makes it like a disconnection.

Some couples do but it is just too scarry this day and age, listen to what .Eiri said,try som rose pedas or in a bath tub with candles, you can be adventurous with the same person.

See I think thatis the problem, I keep it fresh and I like having sex 3x's or more a day . I think he feels like he can't keep me happy and I really am . My guy wants another women not a guy. And I can't go there and he knows why. So he has said I was not secure in our relationship.

This is the first chance I had to talk about this to anyone else . I just realized & please I am not saying this is wrong for everyone , I don't judge others. But if you have real love and respect for each other then each of you has to understands the other feelings and move on . No one should feel that they are insecure by the other because they can't do this . Am I right ?

I agree angelheart but a lot of people think differently!

That's why the divorce rate is up !
I am glad I found this , I think I will have a talk with my other half tonight . And if he stills wants to add another women to our bed . Which I know he will .I will show him how secure I am with my self by letting him find two women , one to "love" and one to play with .There has to be a normal guy out there somewhere !

Question... If he feels he can't please you because of how much sex you want, then how the hell does he expect to please two ladies at once? I don't think he gave you the real reason for wanting a threesome, especially if he wants another girl. Another guy, I could sort of understand how that would work into his "excuse" of not being able to please you. But another woman just seems to me like... He wants to have sex with another woman.

I don't agree with this threesome stuff. Fine - you're body you're choice, have an orgy, go dogging, whatever floats your boat. But the whole point of a relationship is .N.O.T doing these things. It's about being with another person, and that person only. If you want to sleep with other people you have no grounds for being in a relationship, in the true sense of the word!

I would say yes, if both people are willing, and no to having a threesome with someone you know. Cuz then say its your best friend or hers, then you guys would feel a little uncomfortable around each other. If she's down then go for it. I know better to ask my boyfriend to do that, he hates it when I talk of a "toy"..... But we have been together for four years, and we don't even have sex anymore, so its either, have sex more or go to an alternative ya know??? Like someone said, try doing it different postions, that always helps.....

I agree w/ eri. And we had this talk last night . I am insecure because I won't do this and when asked how he would please 2 of us when he feels he can't please one there was no answer . Sorry to say he walked away from me. So this question lead to a break up of a 5yr relationship.
Which left me to thinking there was no 'love" for me in his heart .

I'm pretty conflicted on this subject. I remember I had been dating my boyfriend for only a year at the time when he suggested a threesome to me. I was very disgusted that he could even mention it. He was that bored with me after dating me for only a year? It was his problem, not mine, because I suggested other things that we could do but that didn't fly with him. He told me that we could trade off mmf then ffm but i'm not comfortable with that, unless the girl was less attractive then me! Even then, not really. I think if both partners are consenting, then they should go for it. On the other hand, I personally would never do it because it would ruin the relationship for me. I don't want to see my dude getting humped by another chick! Diseases are also rampant these days, I wouldn't want to get some life-threatening std all because my boyfriend is a horndog who is bored with me.

Yes, I agree, there is many diseases out there and many more on the way that we do not know, or aware of, does this scare anyone here? Ive been married for 15 years im happily married, and a mother of 2 kids, im faithful to my husband, becuse I love him so dearly, and nothing will change that. But please think about it, if you were really horny for someone, would you really have sex with someone who might have some kind of deadly disease, ?It might be your last, ......., this day and age its very risky indeed, ... From hotty

Here are some positions if you are interested

doggystyle
69style
reverse missionary
leapfrog position
cowgirl positon
reverse cowgirl position
spread eagle position
spoons position
missionary position
piledriver position

Ive had 3somes more then once... Ffm... I love them and he dosent mind either. We are both secure in our relationship and its fun... If your girl/boyfirend is all in id say go for it..

i havent read replies to this--only your post but just reading it makes me hate guys even more than I already do..Haha just kidding but anyways--if my fiance told me he was bored with our sex life--i would probably cry and feel very insecure with our sex life/relationship ....So I think maybe you should try telling your girlfriend that you want to try new things---other than well can we have a threesome because im bored with you..Thats just rude..Anyways there are other ways to do things to make sex more interesting ----i would never have a threesome or sex party or whatever ...Just weird and kind of scary because all the diseases lurking around on this earth...Plus what girl wants to have sex with their bestfriend and their boyfriend at the same time--thats just wrong ..

People on here are kind of judgemental. There is nothing wrong with wanting and fantasizing about other people joining in during sex. Its not "just wrong"... And for the right people... (secure in themselves) it can be an awesome experiance. So to the people that are like "eeewwwwee why would you ever do that" its not tabu and as long as you protect yourself and everyone is consenting go for it.

it is not just wrong, it is very wrong! But for people who don't care about living a moral life then it is okay.

o give it a break. There is nothing immoral about satisfying your sexual desires as long as all parties are consenting adults. Let me guess anal and oral sex are also immoral... Because u cant procreate right? No sex toys either? And forget about homosexuality.... Ignorant people and their stupid remarks.... Do what makes you happy you only live once.