Just something i'm wondering about. I
have group tonight, and in relation to one
of my behaviours (self harm), I had a
breakthrough/realisation last week.
During a week of tears, I realised the
significance of what it meant was. The
group I go to, there is no talk on
behaviours, however I feel that it is
important to mention them sometimes. I
would like to be able to mention what the
realisation was - my therapist has no
reason why I should not mention it, as
mentioned it to him on sunday. I feel
that by mentioning it, it could help let
go of some of the feelings I still have
around it. I would welcome anyone's
comments and/or suggestions on this.
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lostoyou
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 170 Location: Ireland
Posted: 09-13-05 11:10am
I think you should mention it because not
only will it help you but it could really
be of benefit to someone else. Behaviours
are something that are what people who are
in early stages of recovery focus on most
but when you realise that a certain
behaviour meant something for you then it
is good to share it because then the
people who are in the early stages could
instead of just focusing on the behaviour
could question the reason for doing it
etc.
I think it would be a good thing and i'm
sure it will be welcomed by all. And if
it isn't really approcate i'm sure the
faclitor will say something very descretly
in order to change the conversation but to
be honest I don't think she will. I think
she will be glad to hear what you have to
say as we all learn from one another.
I won't be at the group myself but I hope
it goes well for you and you also learn
from the others as there is alot of wisdom
in that group.
Take care!
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irishamethyst
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 75 Location: Ireland
Posted: 09-14-05 03:30am
Heya. Thanks for your reply and
encouragement. Well I mentioned it in
group last night - even though I haven't
engaged in any behaviours in over a year,
it still amazes me what realisations I
sometimes get. I started off by saying
to the faciltator that there was something
i'd like to say, but wasn't sure how
appropriate it was, as it was a
realisation based on behaviours. I then
went on to say that I used to self harm,
and during an emotional week, I realised
that it was my way of crying, as for years
I couldn't cry. I also explained how
none of the other methods "safer" worked,
as I needed the realease internally.
I am actually feeling clearer and calmer
about it now. It was my own way of
testing how much of it, have I let it.
The shame or embarrassment didn't hit me,
and it's the first time i've mentioned it
in a group situation. I'm kind of
pleased with myself (and surprised).
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lostoyou
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 170 Location: Ireland
Posted: 09-14-05 04:03am
Oh i'm glad you did it! It takes alot of
courage to talk in the groups and
especially when you are not sure if what
you want to say can be said.
I'm sure you brought not just a
realisation to yourself but to others as
well.
Well done!
