Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Re: Alot of Masterbation Posted: 08-20-06 09:29am
dpurifi
wrote:
my boyfriend has this
problem as well.. But the thing is, he
can masterbate in one day, like 2 times
alone, then we'll be together and have sex
for hours, and he cums like another 5
times, and then afterwards while im
sleeping, its like he needs to do it
again.. He also loves to look at porn
and stuff like that.. Which I dont mind
much.. I figure, if this is the way his
body is, then fulfill your need, as you
need to. Its not like he takes up all
his energy and has none left for me...
Thats for sure.. But im afraid as he
gets older, its gonna like, fall off or
something.. Also, I have a question..
From doing this so often, can one become
sterile?, cause I notice the change in
consistency of the cum after the first
couple of ejaculations..And we've been
trying to have a baby, with no success...
But by all means, i'm not complaining at
all about my sex life..But it does worry
me a little bit.. I would hate to think
of it as him being selfish.. But sounds
right to me..
the sperm count will drop precipitously
after the first ejaculation, and takes 12
to 24 hours to recover to levels condusive
to fertilization.
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
this young man is not asking
for our opinions on the physical effects
of masturbation. He is crying out for
help with an addiction – a compulsive
behaviour that he is unable to control.
Perhaps I have never experienced what he
is going through to the extent that he
describes, but for years I knew what it
was like to be a slave to one’s own
sexual desires. From my own experience,
there is nothing healthy about being
enslaved by one’s own body –physically
or emotionally.
Even if the negative physical effects of a
compulsive behaviour such as masturbation
were, in fact, insignificant – one would
still have to deal with the psychological
effects, which can be devastating. I
found that they far outweighed the
pleasure I got from the habit. I can
only speak for myself, but I feel so much
better about myself since being set free
from the habit of masturbation.
Isn’t it ironic that the very means this
young man chose to bless himself has
become a curse to him?
P.S. The judge who was caught
masturbating while presiding over a case a
few months ago brought disgrace not only
to himself, but also his family and his
profession. We can be sure that he did
not get to that point overnight. What
began years back as a private means of
self-gratification eventually became such
a powerful compulsion that he began to
entertain thoughts of doing it in a public
place. Evidently he felt it could be
done discreetly. It seems that he
didn’t factor in the risk and cost of
being caught.
being obsessed with other people
masturbating is a more disturbing neurosis
than compulsive masturbation, imo.
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singledad
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Re: Advice For a Wife? Posted: 08-20-06 09:38am
confusedwife
wrote:
sorry guys don't mean to
invade on your private conversation here
but what do you think about a husband who
has been married for 20 years, is 38 years
old and masterbates 3 to more times a day?
It sounds like addiction to me.
What do you think? I hear him in the
bathroom (no porn in there), I know he is
looking at porn on the pc a couple of
times a day. We were separated for
several months then starting seeing each
other having sex alot. Now I have
moved back in with him we are back to
where we were before (no sex). Only
have occasional sex and then it seems like
he does not enjoy it. I have caught
him masterbating to the porn, he denies
doing it in the bathroom even though I can
hear it clearly (you know it has a
specific sound right?). He says he
isn't doing it everyday, says that he does
not have a problem. I know how to tell
if he has watched the videos, been to porn
sites etc. He says all men do it
several times a day. The married men I
have asked say they would rather have sex
with thier wives than jack off. I am
not overweight, men tell me I am very
pretty and I like to have sex. Is it
possible that he prefers to jack off.
He looks at fat naked chicks on video and
the internet. Chubbyland.Com is his
favorite website. He says he just
looks at them because they are normal.
But they are huge fat pigs. Back to my
question: I know guys that do not have
someone to have sex with on a daily basis
may jack off, but is it normal for someone
who is in a relationship to jack off
several times a day and not want to have
sex the normal way? Since he obviously
doesn't realize or won't admit he has a
problem what would it take to get a guy to
"get it"? Any comments are appreciated.
Thanks, confused
wife
if you can't beat him, join him.
Masturbation can be addictive, and one can
become accustomed to levels of self
stimulation that a partner cannot supply -
try doing it with him and see what he
does.
Still, if he's more interested in the porn
than you and you're not getting what you
need out of the relationship, then you've
gotta do what you've gotta do - on the
plus side, apparently he wouldn't mind if
you got fat.
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-20-06 09:51am
On a general note, re the side effects of
excessive masturbation, there are some
side effects, notably zinc depletion.
Zinc is a neurotransmitter critical to
brain function and is also critical in
fertilization - the balls take precedence
over the brain however, and zinc levels in
ejaculate remain constant over multiple
orgasms even though the sperm count drops.
Some of you guys may have high levels of
zinc in your system, and excessive zinc
can cause erections (oysters, legendary
aphrodisiacs, are very high in zinc) but
at some point you'll want to consider
taking zinc supplements, which are
metabolized better if you take them with
calcium.
I'm not certain there can be any long term
effects from zinc depletion, but it can
probobly make you stupid for a little
while.
Otherwise, I suggest moderation - easy to
say, I recall suffering from throbbing,
insistant erections quite a bit of in my
younger years, but if you really want to
cut down, find an activity where you can
get some exercise, take up a hobby, play a
sport, take a cold shower - break the
operant stimulus reward loop for a few
days, i.E., do something to take your mind
off of it - the big one.
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-20-06 09:53am
Oh, one last thing - suppressing
ejaculation can cause semen to back up
into your prostrate, and lead to infection
- I don't recommend it.
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prev10
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Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 08-21-06 21:19pm
Get a hobby - oops you already have one!
Get a job
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-22-06 17:50pm
I know about the prostrate thing from
experience - I used to do it with my ex to
keep from crashing after ejaculation - to
make a long story short, I ended up with
an infected, swollen prostrate, and am
actually under doctors orders to ejaculate
as frequently as possible to keep my
prostrate drained!
It's ok, nobody else believes me either,
but i've since talked to a couple of other
gentlemen with prostrate problems and they
said their doctors told them something
similar: "use it or lose it".
I think the hair on my palms is from
rubbing the minoxodil in, I swear it.
and there are some fairly dramatic side
effects possible - combine this with the
fact that orgasms increase your
testosterone production, and a small
degree of statistical probability for
drama presents itself, which should make
the theocratic behavior modification ocd's
happy.
The good news is that ordinary over the
counter zinc supplements, or even a good
multivitamin should keep you from going
insane. I take a pre-formulated chelated
zinc/calcium supplement once a day, and
the cost is negligable.
Dunno about the guy that did it 21 times
in one day, better google up zinc
poisoning...
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davidMriddle
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to Much Posted: 03-25-07 01:29am
I am 14 years old and masturbate as much
as i can. I doesn't cause me pain but my
penis is starting to curve and it's like i
have to masturbate once an hour.
I have been masturbating since like 8 or 9
and i usually do it in my room but for
some reason my craving got so bad that i
had to masturbate right then and there and
i was at school so i went to the
bathroom.
I masturbate to porn, pictures, to my
boyfriend on the phone or even to an empty
mind. If i don't cut it down i am going to
get caught and in trouble.
How can i cut down on masturbating?
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davidMriddle
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Joined: 25 Mar 2007 Posts: 2 Location: United States
to Much Posted: 03-25-07 01:29am
I am 14 years old and masturbate as much
as i can. I doesn't cause me pain but my
penis is starting to curve and it's like i
have to masturbate once an hour.
I have been masturbating since like 8 or 9
and i usually do it in my room but for
some reason my craving got so bad that i
had to masturbate right then and there and
i was at school so i went to the
bathroom.
I masturbate to porn, pictures, to my
boyfriend on the phone or even to an empty
mind. If i don't cut it down i am going to
get caught and in trouble.
How can i cut down on masturbating?
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Re: to Much Posted: 03-25-07 13:20pm
davidMriddle
wrote:
I am 14 years old and
masturbate as much as i can. I doesn't
cause me pain but my penis is starting to
curve and it's like i have to masturbate
once an hour.
I have been masturbating since like 8 or 9
and i usually do it in my room but for
some reason my craving got so bad that i
had to masturbate right then and there and
i was at school so i went to the
bathroom.
I masturbate to porn, pictures, to my
boyfriend on the phone or even to an empty
mind. If i don't cut it down i am going to
get caught and in trouble.
How can i cut down on
masturbating?
Read through what other people have
written on this topic. I'm sure they have
good advice for you.
1. Get active! Do activities you enjoy
aside from masturbating, such as swimming,
jogging, roller blading, skiing, etc.
2. Try to go cold-turkey. It's often been
found to be a good way to stop severe
addictions. yes, it sucks and yes, it's
hard; but it takes 21 days to form a
habit, healthy or otherwise!
3. Remove mastrubation paraphenelia. Throw
out and delete any porn you have (nothing
wrong with porn, heck no! But it's part of
your problem). Turn on the
safe-search filter in Yahoo and google.
Delete links to porn sites.
4. When you get an urge to masturbate, do
something else. Take yourself to a public
place without bathrooms if you have to! Do
push ups, cook, clean, but do something
with your hands! You can do many of these
things while on the phone with your
boyfriend, if you get an urge while doing
that.
5. Finally, remember that some
masturbation is healthy, and in fact is
needed for a healthy body, but an activity
that was once an addiction always has the
chance of becoming one once again. Perhaps
slate a time of day that you will
masturbate, like before bed or in the
shower, and only do it then.
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DevilAdvocate
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Joined: 31 Mar 2007 Posts: 1
Posted: 03-31-07 23:10pm
If you get your self busy with other
activities you won't do it as much..
having the time to do 7-8 times aday tells
me you don't have other activities,
hobbies or barely a healthy social life..
so get your self busy if it reaches the
point, xbox, reading.. find something that
interest you, find friends that keep you
in bigger social circles.
I truly believe in the depression side
effect... but not due to physical
activity.. rather to the fact that you are
spending alot of time alone away from
again a healthy social life.
I take vitamin E on the side.. hopping it
prevents any future prostate issues... at
least thats what the label say.
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Dilan
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Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 2
Too Weak to Beat the Addiction Posted: 04-01-07 21:37pm
Hi everyone. I have a problem-
masturbation addiction. I admitted it to
myself, to GOD and now to you folks.
Masturbation and "getting off" negatively
effects my life in many ways. It harms my
health and my personal life. I know that
it's hormones and there is nothing wrong
with it (with libido/sexual drive). But it
just feels wrong to ME to masturbate. I
don't care what anyone says- that it is OK
and "it is even healthy for your body." I
WANT TO QUIT!! FOREVER! I am not trying
to quit because some priest says it's
wrong or a sin, etc. I am doing it because
it ruins my life. I am 24 and never had a
girlfriend. Went out on dates many times.
Yes. But never had the actual
relationship. The reason for that is my
addiction. I just can't look a girl in the
eyes because I feel she'll see through me.
That she'll find out that I am a pervert,
or smth like that. The result is- she
thinks I have smth to hide, doesn't trust
me and walks away. And the only thing I
want is to care about someone and to be in
a healthy, loving relationship with a nice
girl. I want to be happy, to be FREE and
to FEEL clean! And I hate porn!, even
though there's nothing wrong with it in
itself. I'd like to hear from someone who
successfully overcame this problem. Any
advice or tips for me?
Thank you so much in advance! God bless
you!
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Re: Too Weak to Beat the Addiction Posted: 04-02-07 00:13am
Dilan
wrote:
Hi everyone. I have a
problem- masturbation addiction. I
admitted it to myself, to GOD and now to
you folks. Masturbation and "getting off"
negatively effects my life in many ways.
It harms my health and my personal life. I
know that it's hormones and there is
nothing wrong with it (with libido/sexual
drive). But it just feels wrong to ME to
masturbate. I don't care what anyone says-
that it is OK and "it is even healthy for
your body." I WANT TO QUIT!! FOREVER! I
am not trying to quit because some priest
says it's wrong or a sin, etc. I am doing
it because it ruins my life. I am 24 and
never had a girlfriend. Went out on dates
many times. Yes. But never had the actual
relationship. The reason for that is my
addiction. I just can't look a girl in the
eyes because I feel she'll see through me.
That she'll find out that I am a pervert,
or smth like that. The result is- she
thinks I have smth to hide, doesn't trust
me and walks
away.
The problem is, you do have
something to hide: your own shame of your
body. You are ashamed of your own healthy
urges.
masturbation does not make you a pervert.
I wouldn't trust someone who isn't
comfortable with their own body either.
I'd be afraid that they would think I am a
"pervert" because I masturbate too. I
wouldn't want to date someone like that.
Quote:
And the only
thing I want is to care about someone and
to be in a healthy, loving relationship
with a nice girl. I want to be happy, to
be FREE and to FEEL clean! And I hate
porn!, even though there's nothing wrong
with it in itself. I'd like to hear from
someone who successfully overcame this
problem. Any advice or tips for
me?
The only way to overcome your natural,
healthy urges is to sink furter into your
mindset of the activity being peverted and
harmful. The more you believe this, the
less you will want to do it.
I don't know how many girls are going to
be comfortable around a guy who doesn't
like touching himself; I mean, is he going
to be okay with sex? Will he be okay with
mutual masturbation? What if he finds out
I own a vibrator and masturbate every
single night? What about sex toys in
general? Is it just going to be boring,
vanilla sex in the missionary position? Is
he uncomfortable with other aspects of
himself? He must not be a secure person.
He must not be comfortable with his body
or his image, or maybe he has some deep
rooted fears about his body related to his
youth...
Quote:
Thank you so much
in advance! God bless
you!
Women masturbate too, just so you know...
and they masturbate just as much as guys
do. Once, twice, three times a day!!
I think you have some insecurity issues.
You think these women will
think you're perverted... but they won't.
They'll think you're normal. Everyone
knows that guys masturbate, and it is healthy
for you, period. If you think that
denying yourself a safe, feel-good outlet
for frustration and sexual desire is okay,
well, then that's your choice.
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Dilan
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Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 04-03-07 01:10am
Thank you for your help. You are
absolutely right. I'll take your advice
and won't feel guilty about doing it
anymore. But I will try to quit anyway, or
reduce the number of times I do it. At
least for health reasons...
Thanks again and wish me luck!
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pacconltd
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Joined: 03 Apr 2007 Posts: 6 Location: Hawaii
Too Much Jerking Off? Posted: 04-03-07 20:48pm
8 times a day must leave you pretty sore.
If you are functioning OK in other areas
quit worrying about it. Nature will slow
you down eventually. I am more curious
about your depression etc. Do you think
this masturbation is your way of
compensating for feelings that you are
perhaps not allowing yourself to have in
any other way? How are your
relationships? Are you physically active.
Are you productive in work, school or
whatever? The blather from your
well-meaning religiously-challenged
individual can be taken for the bits and
pieces that make sense. i.e. not allowing
this to become your sole obsession etc.
But don't delude yourself that satan is
crawling down your am and working it up
and down to help you on your way to hell.
If you did not masturbate - at 18 (and a
whole lot longer) your body is going to
release semen through wet dreams,
incidental discharge during bowel
movements etc. It does not simply
reabsorb everything. You were created a
sexual being - one with responsibilities,
true. While it will seem sacreligious to
most - Christ Himself was a young man and
would have had erections like any other
man. We know nothing about His actual
sexuality - but don't think you are any
different in how your body responds to
sexual stimulation. Jesus may not have
masturbated (I fgind that doubtful) but
his body certainly released anyway. So -
don't flog yourself to death and keep
yourself open to society, friendships and
personal growth. You have a long and
wonderful life ahead of you. Don't abuse
it and Enjoy it without guilt.
Hi im also 19 and i have been with the
masturbation problem for awhile. I have
gotten puberty early so it is bad. I would
masturbate constantly and i have so much
stress.....mmy hair line has already
receeed, thinned and lossed. So is there
anyway any can help me stop masturbation
and help me get my hair back....will
stopping masturbation help? Im very
religous to the point where I havent had
sex...only in marriage. So anyone frmo
any religion or anyone with great words of
wisdmo that can help, I would greatly
appreciate it. Thank you so much kind
people....Plz help im losing myself im 19
and i already look very bad with my hair
and masturbatino problem im afraid of
going out without a hat...and laughing i
always feel immense stress on my scalp and
moving my hair hurts that how nad it is.
PLz Help.
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KarimMet
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Re: Masturbation Posted: 04-06-07 22:22pm
Truly amazing what you said im not
christian but i do believe in what you
said and i do believe in jesus. you
brought tears to my eyes and gave me hope.
I have had this masturbation problem and i
have been experiencing hair loss......its
getting bad. i want to know If i can get
it back get back what i lost and and stop
masturbation...will it help? Im so young
and have yet to experience the wonderful
life...I dont want this to hinder that.
Im afraid. I know what im doing is wrong
and i want to stop it i learned my lesson.
i just to stop and grow my hair back and
be the young man god wants me to be happy
and full of life....but i cant feel that
with the way I am please. Any words of
wisdom or help?
Hi im also 19 and i have
been with the masturbation problem for
awhile. I have gotten puberty early so it
is bad. I would masturbate constantly and
i have so much stress.....mmy hair line
has already receeed, thinned and lossed.
So is there anyway any can help me stop
masturbation and help me get my hair
back....will stopping masturbation help?
Im very religous to the point where I
havent had sex...only in marriage. So
anyone frmo any religion or anyone with
great words of wisdmo that can help, I
would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so
much kind people....Plz help im losing
myself im 19 and i already look very bad
with my hair and masturbatino problem im
afraid of going out without a hat...and
laughing i always feel immense stress on
my scalp and moving my hair hurts that how
nad it is. PLz
Help.
First:
masturbation does not cause hair loss.
Stopping masturation will not make your
hair grow back.
Your hair loss is likely genetic and
linked to your father, his father, etc. If
it is not, then you may have an actual
disease or condition - unrelated to
masturbation! - that you need to have a
doctor look at.
Stress can cause hair loss, but only if it
causes you to not eat well and lose
nutrients in other ways.
Moving on... How often do you masturbate?
You might not be addicted at all.
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Tylanas
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Re: Masturbation Posted: 04-09-07 15:41pm
KarimMet
wrote:
Truly amazing what you said
im not christian but i do believe in what
you said and i do believe in jesus. you
brought tears to my eyes and gave me hope.
I have had this masturbation problem and i
have been experiencing hair loss......its
getting bad. i want to know If i can get
it back get back what i lost and and stop
masturbation...will it help? Im so young
and have yet to experience the wonderful
life...I dont want this to hinder that.
Im afraid. I know what im doing is wrong
and i want to stop it i learned my lesson.
i just to stop and grow my hair back and
be the young man god wants me to be happy
and full of life....but i cant feel that
with the way I am please. Any words of
wisdom or
help?
Masturbation does not cause hair loss!
Stopping masturbating will not grow back
your hair.
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extraordinarymachine
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Joined: 23 Apr 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-23-07 12:33pm
Actually, compulsively masturbating can
cause side effects. If you have a
girlfriend and you masturbate too much,
your penis becomes "desensitized". Okay,
so masturbation does feel AWESOME...But
ease off of it and do it less...So when
you do masturbate, it's all the better and
you're not desensitized.
