a Good Friend of Mine Died of Leukimea Posted: 09-10-05 15:35pm
I was at school when this happened. He
was my boyfriend once. It wasn't long
after I had my 1st baby when he died. It
was 3 years ago now but I still miss him.
One day I was in my last year at school
and I was pregnant with my first child. I
was in english which was really boring
when one of my best friends jay fell
asleep.Everyone just thought he'd had a
late night and had fell asleep because the
lesson was boring. The teacher sent him
to the sick bay and there he got sent home
to get some sleep. Me and a friend jonny
went round to his house a week later after
not hearing from him. His mum told us he
had been diagnosed with leukimea after she
had taken him to the doctors. We saw him
he looked frail. In the next few months
he was in hospital having chemotherapy.
We could tell he was suffering but he put
on a brave face. Me,jonny and kate
visited him each week. The school did a
collection for him. 8 weeks after he was
first diagnosed we were told he had died.
It was christmas eve. What hurt the most
was that a few weeks before we had been
told he was improving. I miss him loads.
All of my year group and teachers and
people from other years attended his
funeral. There wasn't a single dry eye in
sight. The school also held a memorial
service. Christmas has never been such a
happy time since my good friend jay died
of leukimea.
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LIBlondie45
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a Good Friend of Mine Died of Leukemia Posted: 09-13-05 06:16am
I'm really sorry about your friend, jay,
dying of leukemia. You will always miss
him as he was once an important part of
your life and no one deserves that kind of
fate.
I lost my 37 year old gf to leukemia last
year. She died 4 months after being
diagnosed. I was at the hospital with her
6 days a week for those 4 months so it was
torturous seeing someone you love so ill.
I felt so helpless as there was not a damn
thing I could do to help her. I
researched hundreds of hours and knew she
stood virtually no chance at recovering,
even with a possible stem cell transplant.
She never even attained a remission to
get a transplant. That poor girl.
I know what you mean about your holidays
never being the same. Perhaps you should
talk to a counselor to help you work
through unfinished feelings? I have close
people I can talk to, which helps a great
deal. I did the 50 mile round trip to
the cemetery 2x a week for a year to
"talk" to my gf and felt the closest to
her there but I know her spirit is all
around her loved ones so I don't feel the
need to "visit" her as often. I am trying
to "move on" so I force myself not to go
as often, yet I still go about every 3
weeks. It's hard dealing with loss,
particularly when it comes out of
nowhere.
Just try to hang in there, try to talk to
people you feel are supportive and help
others. I donate blood on a regular basis
and in my mind, I tell myself this is a
gift of life in loving memory of my gf.
Helping others helps ease the loss. Hang
in there.
Jay didnt go into remission or nuffin
neither he ad jst started his chemo. When
we broke up from school for the christmas
holidays the teacher told us he was
getting better but he wouldn't fully
recover for atleast 2years.Thats y I was
so shocked when he died. I knew how ill
he was but it never occured to me he might
die. It was horrible when his mum rang me
and jonny on christmas eve to tell us he
had died. Jonny was his closest male
friend and I was his closest female friend
and she askd me and jonny to ring round to
tell everyone he had died.
I don't want to talk 2 a councellor.I cnt
talk2my family bwt him neither cuz they
dint really get on with his family so they
dnt lyk me talkin bwt him. I used 2be
able to talk 2my old skewl friends lyk
jonny about it really openly but now it's
got to the point when one of us will say
don't talk about it you'll make me cry
sorry about your ex-girlfriend
earlier this year I did this 28mile
walkathon 1/3 of the money I raised went
to a leukimea fund and 1/3 went to a
breast cancer charity because my auntie is
dying of breast cancer+ the other 1/3 went
to a meningitis fund because my daughter
had meningitis
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abby luvz cody
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Love, Life Posted: 01-14-08 02:24am
i have leukemia and i am only 15 have had
it for 2 years my boyfriend and me are in
love and have a baby girl whom is are love
. im not scared of death im just scared
at not having them. my mom knows and i
love her, my dad well he left us so
w/e.well live, my saying " life is short
so live it up drink it down avoid the
bull s××× cuz at 1 point u will have done
everything u wanted to do" and im ok i
know god has something for me he hast to!
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