hi I am cath I turn 40 next week & I lost my husband 5 1/2 yrs ago & I fell the same as you, & I have no one that I can talk to that knows what I am felling, if I try & talk to my friends I am told that I should be over it by now, get on with it, time heals but how much time it still hurts so much, tigger you are not the only one..
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Hi there!
My name is tracy. I can't relate to anyone in this forum but, the lord lead me to post a reply. I just remarried last year (after a divorce) and my biggest fear is to lose my children or husband. I especially obsess over the thought of losing my husband b/c he is the biggest part of my life. The one I feel keeps me going. So, I guess what I wanted to do is to let you know that even though I don't know how you feel, I hurt for you. I don't know who you are but, I will pray for your comfort and peace tonight! I have had a few friends and family that have lost their spouse I will reassure you that you are not alone! There are sooo many broken hearts right now b/c they lost the love of their lives. Rest assured that if your husband had a relationship with jesus christ, he is in his arms this very moment. Let's face it, we wouldn't want to bring him back from that if we had the ability would we? I just want you to know that the lord knows your pain and he hurts with you (even if no one else in the did). But, the fact remains that you are surrounded with people that have gone through and are going through what you have and it may be up to you to be their shoulder to cry on and an empathetic ear to listen. As you reach out for someone right now, remember that the lord is by your side always and that someone may be reaching for you. :) with love and prayers for peace and comfort, tracy

Hi my name is patty I lost my husband on dec. 2nd this year and I turned 40 on dec 18th. I know exactly how you feel. Right after I was told my husband died I thought to myself....I am a widow at 40. I have two little girls 5 and 9. My husband went in for gastric bypass and had many complications. If anyone has had a loss after gastric bypass please let me know. Please feel free to email me.

I just lost my husband of 13 years in 2005. I know how you gals feel. It's hard sometimes to face the world alone. It's not easy. I missed my husban so much that I think he's coming back one day. I just can't seem to except the truth. I feel like I live in two different life. One is with my husband and kids. The other is without him. I get every confused all the time. I sometime tell myself how long is this going to last. But I guess only time can tell me. I know all of you missed your husband too.

Hi,
my name is genevieve and I also lost my husband (in 1999). One of the only things that makes me happy is that I was able to give him the only son he always wanted. Although he died when our son was only 2 1/2 months old. I know that he's passed on to better things, with the lord, but there are so many times that I prefer that he was here with us still (selfish?). At times when we (children and me) go out to the store and see people and places we used to visit together, or even couples; that makes me miss him even more. So you are not alone. Just take it one day at a time and do not let anyone else tell you when you should be over "it", because if they really knew what we feel, went, and go through, they would simply shut their mouth and be understanding about it. Just be glad that your husband knew that he was loved by you. That is something that helps me alot.

Hi my name is kay and I lost my husband in 1999. We were married 36 years and he was only 56. You never get over it, it just gets a little easier to deal with every day. One day at a time. I have lived alone now for 7 years. It's not easy. Sometimes I think I see him in a store or in a semi driving. That's what he did for 30 years. He was retired for 1 year when he passed. We had so many plans for retirement that never happened. I still cry for him and miss him terribly. I am very lucky though, I have 4 wonderful adult children that make life bearable. I too hate being a widow, but, I deal with it. More so now, than in the beginning. I promise you it will get easier.

Hi I also lost my husband suddenly and it will be three years next month. He died the day before valentines day which makes that day very difficult for me. I to miss him very much and somedays can't do anything but sit and think of him. I also find myself crying alot over stupid commercials or when things happen on tv like someone wins on deal or no deal. It is weird because before he died I never cried much at all now I find myself crying whenever something nice happens to someone. Most days are good though and I find myself functioning great. There is never a day that goes by that I don't think of him and something doesn't remind me of him. I usually get through the days when I am depressed by remembering the good times I had with him and cherishing those memories. Right now I am out of work so the days seem longer and I am missing him more. I find if you keep busy it helps alot.