C'mon...Don't be so pessimistic..." I am getting to the point in my life I wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up"...I realize your problem is serious, but you shouldn't. Think like this...It's not the end of the world.
There is one thing I don't understand. If you are feeling so bad and nothing seems to work why don't you have the surgery done and the gallbladder removed? This should solve your problems. Anyway, the operation is extremely simple...It's a routine operation so you needn't worry about it.
However, I should tell you that stones can do a lot of damage. I don't understand why some doctors told you that they won't cause you any problems. As far as I know, gallbladder stones can lead to chronic inflammation of the gallbladder, irritation if the mucosa which lasts for a long time is most likely to lead to cancer. Furthermore, if the stones are small than there's a high chance that they move forward and leave the gallbladder. If they do they may obstruct the common bile duct, thus leading to jaundice. If the stone makes it to the duodenum or colon it may cause biliary ileus. If it remains stuck in vater's ampulla it may lead to haemorrhagic destruction of the pancreas.
So, as you can see, there are a lot of problems these stones can cause you, apart from the fact that you are feeling so sick. If I were to give my opinion, I would say take the gallbladder out.
Good luck!