Such sad stories...I am sorry for all your loss. This is my first pregnancy, i'm 30 years old and seem to be taking each day in my stride. I do have "what if's" and "how will I know" and at the back of my mind I am worried that the next scan will show something bad....But I am not going to let thoughts like that ruin the next 5 months of my pregnancy....
When I told my partner that we had hit the jackpot...The first thing we did was talk about the "what if's" and found that we were both being realistic. I have since been of the mindset, that if nature, or god or whoever that greater being is, decides to take my baby from me, there isn't really much I can do about it and worrying about whether that will happen isn't going to make it less likely to happen....It will just pass on stress to the baby I am carrying.
So I take each day at a time, I still check every time I go to the loo that there's no blood when I wipe and hope that everything will be okay.
.....Just thought I would share that with you... Sorry to go on! Bloody hormones!!!