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Q: Single Teen Mum of 3

asked by: lilsam2701 on September 2nd, 2005

Experienced User

I'm 19 and I have 3 kids and I am a single mum.
My first childs dad I was with him since I was 13 when I was 15 I found out I was pregnant. I gave birth to my first daughter when I was 16.The baby's dad was a year older than me. When my daughter was 10 months old we both decided to split. We are still really good friends and he see's his daughter on a really regular basis.
Then I met another man about 2months later. Soon after I found out I was pregnant.I was excited to be giving my daughter lucy a little brother or sister.My partner was very excited until I got to 6mths gone. Then he told me I should get rid of the baby. I said i'd never get rid of a baby and that it was too far anyway. I gave birth to another daughter called beth. When beth was 6 weeks old my partner started beating me up. But I was so disgusted in my self that I didn't fight back. When my youngest daughter was 15 weeks old he raped me. I was in shock. The next day when he was at work I packed my bags and left with my 2 daughters. He is now in prison because he raped another woman aswel. Before he went in prison he told me he never wanted to see me and my kdis again.
Then I met another man. He helped me through my pain and I got pregnant. We split when I was 7 months pregnant because he cheated on me. We are still good friends and I now have his son who is now aged 4mths. He see's his son regularly aswell.
Has any one else been through similar experiences as me?

Replies(6)

bglittery1979

replied on January 2nd, 2006

New User

Hmmm

Well ,i have to say, what are you thinking? You are 19 years old and should be in college rather than having child after a child that will live in poverty ( most likely). You are the type of women that give other single moms a bad name. I am sorry for what you have been through. But give it a break, you are in this position because you didn't learn the first time around. I think it will be hard for you to find other people in the same situation, although there are many other people who are selfish as you seem to be. Also, condoms prevent the spread of disease.

Cambion

replied on January 2nd, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Hmm, I think I smell a breeder..

Honestly, I seriously doubt you will find too many people in the same situation as you. Not saying it's impossible, but there are very few girls who have 3 kids before they hit 20. You did not say anywhere in your post that you utilized any form of contraception. If you slept with 3 different guys and didn't protect yourself at all, then I simply can't pity you. You brought 3 shrieklings upon yourself. Taking care of yourself at 19 is hard enough, but to also care for 3 children? How are you paying for them? Do you work and leave the kids with a sitter or a relative? Dear lord.

Sorry for being so insensitive, but I cannot sympathize for your plight if you took no precautions. If/when you get involved with a new partner, please please please do something to protect yourself. You will only bring more suffering upon yourself and your children by giving life to yet another potentially unwanted baby. Don't let your children grow up in a miserable atmosphere, if they aren't already.

wadem

replied on March 5th, 2009

New User

im in the same situation im asingle mum with three boys it is hard work, i had my first 2 sons with a partner who became violent and agressive who i left it was not fair on the children non stop arguments. my second partner i had my 3rd son with he started dealing drugs who i had 2 finish with as i did not want this around my children,i feel for u sometimes things r all good in the beggining and then people change some people need 2 c that its not always the mothers at fault what about the usless fathers who run when the going gets tough atleast the mothers r there 2 pick up the pieces

thepatchins

replied on March 10th, 2009

Experienced User

well i am not in that situation yet, my 16 year old niece is in school with a 17year old single mother of two babies and is pregnant with her third.. she is bounced from family member to family memeber because no one cares enough to take the time to talk to her.. just keep your head heald high and remeber god only puts so much on you he will never put more on you than you can handle..

roxy37

replied on April 14th, 2009

New User

Nows what u are going through

Hi I am 16 and I have 3 kids I had my first kid when I was 13 and then my second one when I was 14 and now I am 16 with my third kid and I am well scared what should I do Please help me wite back as soon as u get this messag

Breax31

replied on October 9th, 2009

New User

Oh jeeze, i dont know how yous do it, im fifteen with a nine month old and can't imagine having another one for years.seriously, did yours learn? i sure learned to use lots of protectioon rather than just a condom.

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