Hey first off i'm rachael and new to the
fourm.. Wanted to say hi and ask you guys
what you think about something. My
serious boyfriend and I just recently
discovered that we were ging to have a
baby... He's super exited (at least he
says he is and he acts that way too) but
i'm not as exited as him and to add to
that my doctor told me that I have a
really high chance of a miscarage for one
reason and another... I want to tell him
what my doctor told me yesterday but he is
so exited to be a father that I don't want
to put that sort of fear onto him,
specialy if nothing happens... What would
you want your girlfriend to do?
I would prefer my girlfriend to tell me
directly. Because as a guy (and I think
many will react this way) I would feed
really mad if my girlfriend told me she
knew about all this all the time without
telling me.
Whenever you are going to tell him, I
advise you to say that you knew that very
recently (not like weeks or so because he
can get mad as well because of that, not
sure but maybe). It is better for both of
you to know it directly. Because if the
baby does not get born, at least your
boyfriend had been warned and it will be a
smaller shock for him, and he won't get
mad at you for something you hided from
him
sure it's sad for him but it may get
sadder if the problem occurs. If not,
everyone will be relieved from stress and
you'll be a happy family. It's something
you both have to go through anyway.
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stillconfused
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2005 Posts: 12 Location: denver
Posted: 09-07-05 10:01am
Thanks for the advice... I did tell him
and he was very sad but he says that it's
a good think that he knows and he can help
me watch for signs and just stay healthy
you know.
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
Good Luck Posted: 09-07-05 13:40pm
Good luck! Hope everything goes well for
you
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angel6932
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2005 Posts: 788 Location: US
Praying For You Posted: 09-07-05 13:46pm
Good luck to you both. I have lost two
babys so I know how upsetting it could be
but I am on child number three and going
to have her any day now. When me and my
husband first found out that we were
pregnant we were told the same thing bc I
had already lost two babys. But with lots
of prayers. I didn't. I pray that
everything will work out for you to.
Honestly don't stress out over it yeah pot
meet kettle. I worried to but I do know
that worrying didn't do us any good it
just made me have high blood perisher.
Good luck and keep us posited
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truckstophero
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 84 Location: alabama
Posted: 09-07-05 18:54pm
Rachel. You must feel so much better
having told yes? Secrets really create a
weird vibe with couples.. Its always
better to tell even if it hurts the other
person.
