This is long so bare with me I just need
some advice!!
2 weeks before my wedding my husband to be
gets mad calls me a health forum and a
promiscuous person throwing cd's in the
yard and comes up to me and wants the gate
key so he can get out I was scared to be
around him so I wouldnt even unlock my car
he comes up to my window wraps his arm in
his work shirt and cracks my passenger
window then tells his dad that he was just
playing how the heck can he just be
playing and he told his dad that be barely
touched it yea he barely touched it and my
whole windshield of the passenger side was
cracked. He got mad cuz I called my dad
well at thetime it was my dad's car it was
in his name so yes im gonna tell him cuz
its his car.
My husband wakes me up after I worked a 12
hr shift at 10 am and wants me to write
the check for 210 for the windshield I was
like no you did the damage you pay he was
like im gonna callmy mom iwas like go
ahead she got mad I was like hey your son
did it not me. I asked gary I was like
waht you gonna do next hit me he was like
I will never hit you I would hit a wall
before hitting you well the windshield to
me is the start of an abusive relationship
I was so hurt my mom told me I will always
have a hosue to live in that I can come
back home but if I did I wouldnt be able
to come back she was like you tell me now
and I will call off the wedding I didnt
want to cuz I didnt want to make people
mad my mom was like nobody is going to be
mad they just want you to be happy.
My friends asked me why I married him I
guess I thought he was the one cuz before
all this he was sweet he bought me stuff
roses jewelry but now all he cares about
is his jeep I need this I need that I dont
have the money and he got mad I bought an
outfit for my cousin cuz she just had a
baby working at hardees her bf cheats on
her with her best friends gets the other
girl pregnant and denies my cousin's baby
so she has been the one who has paid for
all these medial bills living in a run
down trailor so yes im going to help her a
jeep cover aint as important as some who
is struggling.
I found letters from 2 different girl a
girl named heather saying my (bf at the
time) was a good kisser and then I found a
letter written by a girl but to heather
from gary saying that she was a good
kisser to that he would give directions to
get to corey's house so that he can see
her I conronted gary and he was like oh I
was jsut telling her that so she would get
off my back I was gonna lead her on about
the corey house thing he got mad and was
like why you going threw my stuff I didnt
go threw it I happend to stumble upon it
when I was reading all the letters I wrote
him he's never written letters to me.
When I am at work all he does is party and
when I dont want to have sex with him he
gets mad thats all he wants is to get
drunk, laid and money.
I live at my parents cuz I cant afford an
apartment or house I dont know how much a
divorce will cost and I really dont think
I can handle being without him I know im
crazy but no matter how many times we make
up I always forgive him I dont want to be
hurt anymore I want to be happy.
Someone help me!!!
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J_Roc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2005 Posts: 4 Location: las cruces
Posted: 09-10-05 19:40pm
Dang that sounds like a rough time.....
Look I know you wanna be happy and you
need to look at the people around you....I
know that you think you couldnt be without
him, but thats where alot of women our
wrong! You can be witout him and your not
gonna be happy if he acts that way....I
mean if you know that thats all he
wants(sex,money) than its gonna make you
feel really small!! And someday hes gonna
realize that!
You need to set some time for you guys to
talk about this.....Tell him that you
think that he only cares about that stuff
and see what he says..
If you havnt already talked to him about
it,than chances are its cause your scared
of how he might react to it....But you
both need to understand that a
relationship is about team work and
expressing yourself to one another....
And from listening to your side of the
story it seems like your the only one
trying emotionally....Guys always try n be
tough and hide there feelings....Take it
from me! I used to be the same way as he
is... But deep down inside him theres a
loving caring guy that juss needs to
realize wut he has....Most guys dont
realize it untill its too late
if he doesnt understand or care you you
feel when u try n express your self than
he doesnt love you, cause if he did he
would take the time out to listen to how
you feel....As you need to do with
him...
Once again dont ever count a guy to make
you happy, cause thats not wut life is all
about! Thers plenty of other things u
could be focusing on and remeber that.
Well I hope things work out with you guys
and remember that you can always turn to
freinds and family!
Bye
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 09-10-05 19:53pm
:shock: sounds like the beginning of an
abusive relationship. And why would you
not call off the wedding becuz of what
pple would think. Your safety means more
than what pple think. What will they
think when you end up in the hospital or
even worse. I am serious. Be very
careful and watch out for your back.
