This is just something i've been considering over the past five months. I am, and have been in a solid place in recovery for some time now. Even though some challenges have arisen over that time span, I didn't get engulfed with the hardships and/or vulnerability, like I would have done in the past.

I am thinking about decreasing my therapy. I do not yet feel ready to go every second week, but what I am thinking about is maybe going three times a month, instead of four. I am now at a place where I have a life of my own, which has nothing to do with the eating disorder, and sometimes when asked by friends if i'd like to go to the cinema or something on my therapy day, I nearly feel like cancelling. I know it's good that i've created a life for myself separate from my ed, but the idea of going only three times a month is scary. However, I will be without the support of my therapist in november, whilst he is away on holidays.

I've noticed over the past while, that i've started to become a lot more upfront, even in the groups I attend. I have come at peace within myself, that it's ok to have a difference of opinion, or be upset with the facilitator of the group. However, it has become important for me to verbalise both current and past grievances. Some things i've said in the group, and others privately - this usually depends on the circumstances/situation.

It has become important for me to be honest to those around me, to the best of my ability, and I sincerely believe, that this needs to carry into the groups as well. For a while I was getting nothing out of the groups (thought i'd done as much as I could in the group I go to, considering the dynamics that exist there), but over the past few months i've been trying to act more proactively in regards to both owning my own values, but respecting that they do and can differ from the facilitators. Not sure if i'm making much sense here.

I guess what i'm looking for is some guidance on how do you know when it's time to start decreasing your therapy. Lately when I go to therapy, it's usually a discussion of further insights (few and far between), or changes i'm making. Whilst making these changes are important, it is no longer happening through the aid of therapy - I have become more proactive in doing things out of the therapy room - don't feel that therapy is necessary anymore for me to make these changes. Any input/advice or suggestions welcome here.