Everything you are both are going through is "normal" for kidney stone pain.
I don't know if the doctors ever explained to you what a stone looks like under a microscope.
Imagine a tip of a pencil the lead part now added pieces of glass to that.
That is what stone looks like, so you can imagine as we all have what they feel like.
When they are moving around these stones even 2mm ones are cutting/scraping the insides of the kidney from bouncing around in there like a game of ping pong.
When it's passing through the ureter imagine a thin straw and this same piece of stone I described to you. When that passes the ureter its is cutting up the ureter because the ureters are not made for sharp objects (stones) to pass, they can pass and many do pass on their own BUT they are VERY painful.
Then it will finally make it's way into the bladder were it will move around until works it's way out the urethra, and then it's a big sigh of relief..that one is gone.
There is also a condition known as renal colic in which people with stone get and people without stones get...it's when the kidney spasms like a bad muscle spasms but much worse.
Stones form crystals on them which are the jagged pieces similar to glass.
I have switched urologist due to many problems, not from stones but the main one he did an operation me and it failed, causing me a lot more problems.
Do your homework with any doctors, hospitals, etc...It's our health and we only have one life.
I know that pain Hearly of wanting to take a knife and cut it out, I've said I want to do the same so many times.
Unfortunately,I have learned all this first hand along with so many other health problems.
Also, as you know when you get a stones the chances of getting more are very high, they are also hereditary. We unfortunate;y passed them to our child.
He was 12 and had 3 at once, which the ER and doctors were blown away with.
As I mentioned in my previous post this can be serious if left untreated.
The stones can continue to form crystals on them which would make them get bigger.
Keep drinking fluids, but if the pain gets too unbearable from pushing the fluids get to the ER, ASAP...this can indicate the stone is obstructing the kidney/ bladder from emptying and you will then need it removed thru litho or other means.
There are many things we eat that can cause kidney stones, but there are the few of us who just make them, it's crazy.
I passed over 5 stones over New Year's Eve week...what a way to bring in the New Year..LOL
If I can be of any help please ask.