Joined: 29 Aug 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Darwin, Australia
Here to Help, Trust Me Posted: 08-29-05 21:52pm
Hey. I'm adriana falhausen and i'm a
recovered anorexic. I like to say that.
It gives me pride to know that I
triumphed over the evil of anorexia and
i'd like to give others that same
satisfaction. First, what you all have
to realize, is that it isn't your fault
you are anorexic at all. It's
hereditary, meaning you may have inherited
it from a distant relative with a disorder
such as agoraphobia (panic attacks),
bipolarity, or a variety of other common
diseases. We didn't just wake up and
say "i think i'll starve myself today.
I think i'll stunt my growth, make my hair
fall out, make my organs shut down, and
cause turmoil within my relationships.
I think starving myself would be fun.
What an adventure to feel hunger pains and
dizziness and perpetual low self-esteem."
that's not how it went down. We were
given this hardship to overcome and make
our lives better. All you need to do to
take my total and devoted help is answer
these questions. "did you ask for
anorexia? Do you really want to
continue living this way? Would you do
something to save yourself and put your
life back in order so you could embrace it
and make something of it if it improved
you in your eyes and everyone else's?
If your answers were "no" "no" "yes," I
will most definately offer my help.
Now, I don't propose to be a miracle
worker, nor a certified doctor, but i've
been in your shoes and felt your pain.
I understand how you feel and have,
undoubtedly experienced some of the same
emotions.
I can help you gain weight for the
satisfaction of your doctor and family but
have no negative visible results, in fact
be leaner, enjoy foods in a heart-healthy
way, and embrace the fun-loving, care-free
side of you that you haven't known since
anorexia reared its ugly head. I did it
and so can you. I'll transform you from
what you are now to a lean, mean, health
and fitness machine. Like I said, trust
me.
If you'd kindly fill out this simple
survey, I will formulate a diet and
exercise plan specifically fitted to your
needs and help along the way. If I had
someone to do this for me when I had
anorexia, it would've made life a lot
easier.
Name:
age:
height:
weight:
climate:
normal exercise:
approximate number of cals daily:
goal weight (in lean muscle mass):
specific dietary needs:
why do you think you developed anorexia?
(be honest, I had to):
how long have you been anorexic?:
weight gain duration (how slowly do you
want to put on weight lbs/month?):
thanks.
I sincerely care for each one of you.
Adriana falhausen
-from down under darwin, australia
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poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Posted: 08-30-05 07:53am
Is this confidential? Does it cost
anything?
Thanks...I think you are doing a great
thing! :)
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BrokenButterfly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jun 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Ireland
Posted: 08-30-05 09:42am
Firstly I want to say that you have great
intentions because there are not many
people who like to help people who suffer
from eating distress as it is a very
complex disease but you are very good to
want to help and give people are better
life.
However I do not agree that eating
distress is hereditary because it is not
the behaviour that is the problem, its the
reasons behind the behaviour that are more
important.
People who suffer from eating distress are
very sensitive people and there thoughts
and feelings are usually very negative
about themselves which manafests itself in
the destructive behaviour. You are
offering people a way to be heathy which
is always good but you are not able to
help them with the real issue because
really only people trained in eating
distress are able to do that although you
may know how it feels to be trapped and
lost it would be very difficult for you to
help someone recover without really
getting to know them.
Recovery is not about putting on weight,
its about being healthy, its about freeing
yourself from your negative thinking and
enabling you to live life free of eating
distress. Recovery is not easy but it is
certainly worth while. People who are
recovered have a freedom around food, they
are able to love themselves for who they
are, they are able to live in the present
and enjoy it although life isn't always
easy but lets face it everyone has ups and
downs in life, thats what life is about.
Life is about living, its about making
mistakes and learning from them, its about
enjoying the good things and magafying
them.
Recovery takes time and although eating
"normally" is a part of recovery it is not
the biggest thing to overcome.
If you are asking people their weight,
height etc you are not giving them a way
to recover instead you are promoting the
focus of weight in ones life, you are
giving the message that weight is
important and its not. Ok if you are
extremely underweight and have to be
hospitalized then weight is an issue but
you can recover and still be thin because
weight is not the biggest issue, its the
reasons behind the behaviours that are the
things we should be changing.
I do realise that you are doing this to
try and help people but really I would be
encouraging people to seek help from
professionals.
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hnvballchika1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Darwin, Australia
Posted: 08-30-05 17:59pm
This is confidential if you want to email
your answers to me, and no it does not
cost anything. I know how hard it is to
overcome a problem like this and I just
want to help people feel the same way I
do.
And brokenbutterfly, I totally agree with
everything you're saying. This is just
to get someone started in the right
direction. And of course it's not about
putting on weight. Anorexia is a state
of mind, not of body. Someone can be
underweight and perfectly healthy, or
overweight and anorexic. It's just that,
in starting on the right path to thinking
and eating normally and healthfully, one
will most definately develop a better body
image and self esteem. You really do
have a way with words, if I do say so
myself. Everyone should, by all means,
get professional guidance, but a doctor
may only say, you need to eat more food.
That's what my doctor said and I didn't
succumb to it until I visited a sports
nutritionist, who taught me how to eat in
a heart-healthy way and build lean muscle
mass to look even better. If someone
just instructs an anorexic to gain weight,
he/she will not want to gain it in body
fat, but rather in muscle to promote
activity like running, biking, hiking, and
to stay healthy in mind and body. That's
where I want to help out. Showing people
how to improve their bodies for the better
in everyone's eyes.
Adriana
-from down under darwin, australia
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tunasushi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 37
Im Interested Posted: 08-31-05 04:26am
Name: amrita
age: 14
height: 5'4( 162 cm)
weight: 39 kg
climate: tropical
normal exercise: walking
approximate number of cals daily: now I
try to take in around 2000
goal weight (in lean muscle mass): 42 kg
specific dietary needs: not a meat fan
why do you think you developed anorexia?
(be honest, I had to): family problems and
not having anyone to share probs with
how long have you been anorexic?: a year
now
weight gain duration (how slowly do you
want to gain weight): one kilo a month but
I dont wanna look huge
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OON
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: N. IRELAND
Email Posted: 08-31-05 05:10am
You sound like you could help me, could
you give me your email address?
I have a few questions i'd like to ask
that hopefully you'll have the answer
to!!
Xo
I feel compelled to reply to you.
Firstly, even though your intenetions are
well meaning, it's never good to focus in
on diet etc in the earlier stages of
recovery. Also, your aim appears to be
about using exercise etc, however, I would
be wary of such a programme. When
recovering from one behaviours, it is so
easy to switch behaviours. My concern
here would that it could lead people to
start over exercising. I don't mean to
sound mean or anything, but coming from
someone who has reached a solid place on
my recovery, I don't think that it's ever
good to focus in too much on behaviours.
Many years ago I tried to recover on my
own, and did things by the book, and kept
a food diary etc. However, for me this
wasn't the way to go, as my behaviours
spiralled out of control from there,
because I was trying to follow a diary -
when I saw what I had, I always felt it
was way too much - by keeping a diary like
this, increased the focus I already had on
the behaviours.
