I Am 13 And I Really Want a Baby, Pls Help

Im 15 and 15 weeks pregnant. I didn't realize how stressful becoming a parent could be.I have neices and nephews that I love to death but when it becomes to stressful they can always go back to their moms and dads, with your own kid you can't do that. You have to support that child. I turn 16 in about two weeks and will finally be able to get a job, and I plan on working my ass off until this babies born. You can't get a job for another 3 years, your parents have to support you and that baby.Where are you going to get the money to pay for clothes,formula,diapers,wipes,and doctor bills.Do you have enough patience to watch a newborn 24/7 while your friends are going to the mall or movies and having parties? Im not trying to say that your not responsible enough or that you aren't mature enough for a baby, but im 15 and still as clueless as I was when I first got pregnant. There's too much to deal with already when you become a teenager, don't waste your time on trying to take care of a child. Don't let all the parties and future boyfriends slip away because you have to sit at home with a baby because you couldn't find a babysitter.Im sure you have other dreams , like getting married to the perfect man and finishing school and being able to graduate with your classmates and finally going off to college to make something positive out of your life, having a child is something that comes along later in life. Just be a teenager while you can because growing up will scare the hell out of you.

Well said thegoodstuff!!!!

Brunette_bbz, don't worry about having babies, and enjoy your teenage years there is only 7 of them, and live them to the fullist before you have to grow up and be an adult. I'm sure if you wait, it will be worth it later on!

Read 13 and want a baby!!! In the teen pregnancy forum. I cant go through another thread like this...

I got pregnant when I was 16 years old..My daughter is now 5 and going into her first year of school. I'm not here to put you down but you have no idea how hard it is to raise a child on your own.I've been doing it by myself for 5 years with a little help from my parents..Mostly when I have to work to either buy clothes, food and everyday things that she needs. I wasn't able to graduate with my class, well I did recieve my ged but I still can not go to college because I have to work to take care of the both of us for now. I can never go out and hang out with my friends..It's not an easy life and you will regret the choice of wanting a child this young. They are a gift from god but not when you 14..Somethings to think about

Hun, having a baby is more work than you'll ever realize. Who cares if you don't find a baby screaming annoying now....Ya maybe when you get 8 hours of straight sleep a night it isn't annoying but when you havn't slept through the night for a month straight becuase of that baby's screaming then you can say something....

Enjoy being a kid hun.....

Take these gurls advice when they say u dont...Im 17 n 28weeks tomorrow...I didnt realize how stressfull it could all be...All the doctors app. All the stuff the baby needs...Then more doctors app after the babys born...But at 13 u really shouldnt want one...Its alot more work then u think...N belive me u may not think a babys screaming at all time of the night wont be annoying n belive me I thought the same thing until I babysat my 1 y/o cousin n he still screams alll night n alll day(hes worst then a normal child) well hes normal but hes stange around everybody still...Idk why...But it does get annoying n includin the fact that ur 13 n u most likely arnt going to be with the babys father for ever...My sons father left me when I was a lil less then 3 months n its hard tryn to go threw everything with out the support of your childs father...N then u have to go threw all the court app. To get child support n everything even if he wants to be in the babys life it doesnt matter....But idk wha to say ive said pretty much something completly diffrent in here but if u want to here our opinions on 13 and want a baby go to the teen forum n there u have it

Hunny you really need to just worry about school right now and having fun. I am 20 and pregnant with my first child. Let me say its not easy being pregnant. I am sure that it would be much harder on you only being 13. Please think long and hard about what you want with your life yes I know it sounds fun and it is when you are just babysitting but actually having one is a diffrent story. You will want to hang out with friends but you cant always bc you have to worry about finding a babysitter or it might get sick.

Trust all of us you really need to just wait till you are older.

I admire you for being so strong and at a young age ur already responsible enough. But still ... U need first to enjoy your teenage stage...So that you wont regret in the end.. For now u need to finish ur studies first and then think for ur future okey...

Hope it helps.. Take care and gud luck!

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Thanx for all your advice, it has really helped!!! =)
no one can stop me from wanting a kid but it has helped me put things into perspective! And I suppose I don't just have 2 think about myself cos it will affect my parents and the babys dad! It will also stop me from being a midwife (my dream job lol)!!!!

Thanx again!!!!!
Luv brunette_bbz xxx :d

Smart choice!!! Let me tell you my story to help you even more.

I got pregnant when I was 15. It was not planned. I was basically forced into marrying the father, who had been my boyfriend for two years. Yes, there had already been promises of a nice house, white picket fence, etc. Even before this happened. I turned 16 in august. We were married in november, and my daughter was born in december.

His parents helped us to get an apartment. They paid the rent for us. You see, my husband did not have a job. He promised he would find one. I didn't have a job either. I wanted to finish school. So, I had to apply for public aid: foodstamps, cash assistance, etc.

So, I still wanted to finish high school. Lucky for me I babysat for the principal and his wife, who was a teacher there. He worked with me, and with the teahers, so that I had my 6 weeks off, and then returned being allowed to make up what I missed. I was allowed to graduate with my class. This only happened because my mother had always been a stay-at-home mom, and watched my daghter while I went to school.

It quickly became apparent to me that my husband was slipping into darkness. He never did find a job. He drank more and more each day. This would usually lead to fights, and ultimately to him hitting me.

One day my mother had the flu and was too sick to watch my daughter while I went to school. I had to leave my daughter with her dad. He was still passed out in bed, but I had no choice. I culdn't miss any more days of school, or be tardy again, or else I would not graduate with my class. When I came home from school I heard screaming. My little girl was still in her crib where I had left her. She had a bottle of soured formula next to her, the same one I had left her with. Her diaper was soaked through, having soaked the sheets. She was screaming her little head off. That was the last straw.

Soon after I gathered the courage to tell my parents what had been happening...The drinking, the beatings, etc. They allowed me to move back home.

Through all of this I was alienated from all my friends. You see, they had their own lives. My parets would babysit so I cold attend school, but never so I could go out with my friends. Eventually my firends stopped calling and visiting, because they knew I wouldn't be able to go out anyway.

I am 30 years old now. Thanks to my parents, who were supportive, I was able to go to college right after graduating high school, and I am now certified to teach elementary school. Please know that my situation is very unique. Many parents are not so supportive in these cases. I was lucky.

I love my daughter very very much. I am glad that she is a part of my life. I do not regret having such a wonderful daughter. However, I do regret losing those teen years. Even now I look back and wish I had been able to have a normal life. Every once in a while I will run into one of my old friends. They got to live their life right. They had their teen years. Sometimes they just seem so much more settled than myself.

So please, live your life without a baby for now. Enjoy these years, and take comfort in knowing that you will have a baby when the right time comes. Enjoy these years of freedom and innocence, these years of friends, movies, dances, football games. If you choose to try for a baby now, years later you will be looking back like I have, wishing you had done things differently.

Thanks for that story!!! It has made me think about it in a different way because no one can make me change my mine about wanting a baby but now I can see that it's not a very good idea!
I'm glad everything turned out okay for you and your daughter in the end, with your job and everything!!
Thanks again luv

brunette_bbz xxx

I want to what the hell is wrong with u girls u think its easy being a mom u need to think of all the things u need for kids u kids need to stay in school and stopp dumbi have 2 kids my self and its hard I get like no sleep at night there is times were I go days with out eating to make sure my kids have ever thing they need live your life now that u are young

You have to be 16 to have sex anyway so end off

Everyone else gave you very sage advice here - take it from the moms who have replied that caring for a child is no bowl of cherries. You will have no life outside your child. And i'm sure your parents won't be too excited about having to pay for another child since you are not old enough to work.

I'm not trying to be mean, hon, but please don't become a damn breeder when you're so young. Pleeeeeease -- there are way too many breeder-ific women popping out brat after brat after brat already. These dumb cows are adults (and I use that term loosely when it comes to the breeders), and they can't even take care of a child properly.

Wait until you are capable of standing on your own two feet before having kids, if you really want them. You will do yourself and your child a huge favor if you wait until at least after you get your high school diploma. You will be able to support it to some degree and give it a decent life.

That's great if you love kids...But just remember, sprogs don't come with a return receipt. So, if you get tired of it or you can't stand it keeping you awake at night with its crying, you can't give it back. Children are a lifelong commitment and you can't just throw them outside to fend for themselves like some people do with unwanted pets.

...Well, you could do that, but I would not advise it. The family could get suspicious if they find out that the kid is missing in action </sarcasm>

Lmao

.......But it is better that they think it's a rule backed up by law :)

Lol!!! Yes, someone please tell since when did they pass a law saying you have to be 16 to have sex?
That would be great if that were a law, but it isn't and that is just funny to read!!

Take it from someone who got pregnant at 15 it aint easy. I am about to be 22 and it only gets harder. Not to mention how true it is that you will have very little if no support. I had to work 2 jobs just to make ends meat for me and my baby. I saw him about 2 hours a day before he fell to sleep and unless you like being watched even while taking a shower or in the bathroom I suggest you get a dog. Or at least try to keep a plant alive. I dont know how my kid has made it so far but my plant is long gone. J/j.