Ok to make a long story short. I met a
guy online we exchanged pics and what not
and he saw me on cam. We talked for like
a month or so. Just to get a general
idea about this guy he is somewhat shy,
has had a bad past(mom left him when
younger brother died of down syn), he has
a proff career in bball which in return he
cant have much of a life outside of it, he
has only had 2 gf in whole life. Ok so
we talked for a while and I really fell
inlove with him and he fell inlove with
me( very quickly though). Told me he
love me and we actually started dating b4
we met. Even went to the extreme of
saying he wanted to marry me. I know too
quick huh!! Well , we finally started
talkin on the phone (he was so excited).
So we talked like every other day. But
on the phone he was very shy, he didnt
tell me the same things as in chat. Im
am also shy so I havent said much either.
This might be important also one time
when we were chatting I asked him about a
picture I thought he sent me. But it
wasnt of him , I thought it was (i have so
many pics on my computer). He kinda got
upset with me he was like " you talk to
too may guys 4 me " " ur too good 4 me"
which isnt the case at all. And I
spilled my heart and said I only like him
no one else and all that. So it was cool.
Ok I finally arranged to go see him.
Everything was great! After the games he
took me back to his place held my hand,
kissed me , didnt say too much cuz were
both shy( he initiated it all). That
night he held me almost the whole night.
We ended up having sex which I dont do, I
was just caught up in the moment and we
were kinda dating. Keep in mind he is 22
but when we had sex he really had no idea
what he was doing ( he finished very
quickly). I dont base relationships on
sex so that was not an issue. Ok so the
next day I went to see him play and
afterwards we met up and went out to eat
and then got a hotel room. We ended up
having sex again. After he was done he
just layed in the bed next to me real
silent like something was wrong. Almost
like he was embarassed of not having a sex
drive. I really dont know? I asked him
if I did anything wrong and he said no
and turned over and kissed me like 5
times.
The next morning I had to leave so we said
our goodbyes. He called on our way home
and asked how the trip home was but wuz
whispering cuz he was in trouble with his
coaches. I was so happy I had such a
great time and all and then. He wouldnt
call. I mean he called like every three
days but didnt say much. When we chatted
we did it every night after his game.
Why wouldnt he call me? I mean he made
it clear that he liked me by the way he
was acting. Why all of a sudden is he
changing his mind? Could it be his career
? Or theres no chemistry? If that is the
case then why would he make it a point to
kiss me and reach out and grab my hand. I
really need some advice!!! Could he still
like me and not call me? He has an issue
with not thinking he meets my standards
but he really does im just too shy to tell
a guy how I feel . Im scared of
rejection. Someone please tell me what
to do???? Any advice will help!!!
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theman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 77 Location: South Wales, United Kingdom
Posted: 08-28-05 17:02pm
Whoa whoa whoa, hang on, rewind. Lemme
get this straight... You fell in love
with a guy you hadn't even spoken to let
alone met? Then the first time you did
meet him, you had sex???? Good grief.
No, it's not love. He might think he
likes you, but the whole thing seems very
immature. There's not really much else I
can say to that. And please, get some
respect, and don't have sex on a first
date.
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swtscgrl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 19 Location: sc
Posted: 08-28-05 17:07pm
Yes we spoke for like 2 months. We have
alot in common. Yes I made a huge mistake
for sleeping with him . I ask forgivness
from god everyday for it. No we dont
love each other but we do have feelings
for each other. We have seen each
other!!
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swtscgrl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 19 Location: sc
Posted: 08-28-05 17:10pm
I dont just sleep around with anyone thats
why I said its out of my character. I did
it beacause I really really like him. I
will never do it again!
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theman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 77 Location: South Wales, United Kingdom
Posted: 08-28-05 17:11pm
Well what do you feel deep down? Does it
actually feel like you're drifting apart?
And are the feelings that you have for him
strong enough for you to actually be
acting like this? If you had sex after
just two months of talking, don't you
think that maybe your feelings are a bit
premature?
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swtscgrl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 19 Location: sc
Posted: 08-28-05 17:32pm
Yes you are right ! We were moving way
too fast. Its only on rare occasions
when I actually meet someone that I really
like as a whole. Im not like alot of
girls who date this guy this week then
dump him and move on. When looking I try
to find someone I can possibly make it
through life with atleast a couple of
months lol. I never believed in this
whole internet dating thing I thought it
was pretty crazy but , we got to chattin
and we had great conversations and had so
much in common!! Knew what each other was
gonna say next. We had good
conversations and we were both attracted
to one another. Its def not just about
sex with us atleast not 4 me. He never
once told me to get naked or talk nasty to
me. He used the word "love". Even at
that we are both dissapointed in ourselves
for what we did. We are paying for it .
I might be pregnant!! God is showing me
now.
I really dont know if he has the same
feelings for me now or not. But I still
really like him!! And im not going to lie
I have strong geelings for him. He may
not want to continue with me cuz he thinks
im 2 easy. Which he has all rights to
believe that. But ive only had sex with 3
guys in lmy life! 2 women for him. I
just want an answer. I wish he would be
upfront with me ! Its driving me crazy!!
He should not have led me on like this if
he didnt know if he liked me or not.
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theman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 77 Location: South Wales, United Kingdom
Posted: 08-28-05 17:37pm
Well, first things first, you can't bring
up a baby with this uncertainty, and
definitely not after such a short space of
time. If you are pregnant I would advise
you do not have the baby. Secondly,
that's what condoms are there for. Use
them. Thirdly, I can't tell what you're
feeling. You'll have to work that out for
yourself.
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swtscgrl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 19 Location: sc
Posted: 08-28-05 17:39pm
Well was on the bc patch . I do not
beleive in abortion it is a sin. Not to
menation heartless!!
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theman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 77 Location: South Wales, United Kingdom
Posted: 08-28-05 17:43pm
But you should always use a condom,
regardless. Especially since you could
get stds, if nothing else. It really does
seem like we can't help you here. Your
feelings are your own, and all that you've
proven to us is that you're unsure about
whether he loves you or not, and that you
don't want an abortion if you are
pregnant. If you have more specific
questions we'd be glad to answer, but from
what you've said, there's not much we can
do. Good luck, whatever you decide!
