ı think it is related with the sensation of the penis. ı mean every people must have different amount of nerve endings on it. ı have a similar situation. ı m not a doc but just guessing. If it is related with that, there musnt be a simple solution to it. In the net they talk about some solutions like kegel exc. And stop and go method. I m not sure but these methods may cause some problems. ı hope time is a solution...Supposing that some nerves will die...Eventually they will die altogether... :(

I used to have a similar problem, and found that the reason it was happening is I was getting to "in" to the sex. I.E. The anticipation and overwhelming sensations were getting me so worked up that I was done moments after I started. I managed to figure out a way to control this for myself by not thinking about what I am doing, but rather, thinking of something else. For instance... Try doing a complex math problem in your head while having sex... This method pretty much allows me to control when I ejaculate... Which can really impress women too by the way. When I am done, I just concentrate on what I am doing instead of whatever I chose to think about.

Sounds like bs to me...

Premature ejaculation has to deal with your penis' sensation (as saglamh23 mentioned), your height or arousal, your physical health, and your mental state (ie: is it pleasing to you.). While there are a number of products that claim to solve this problem, most don't. The easiest way to gain back "your control," is it master kegels (while this could take some time, the results are very promising), and trying the "stop & go method." masturbating shorty prior to sex will also help to extend this time.

Women don't really care how long it takes you to ejaculate.


It's mostly a "man" problem and all in the head.


As long as you are happy your girlfriend will be.


That is the bottm line

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Hi there..This is my expereince after 3months of marriage..

I discovered there is one fundamental cause for me to cum too fast.

That is...I wasn't hard enough b4 penetration. My dick couldn't get inside without me either hammering the entrance like a battering ram or pumping my dick manually to make it sufficiently hard. These activities are akin to self-masturbation which makes my dick super-sensitive after I finally enter my wife. The fluids and the warmth inside jacks the sensitivity even further and voila..Premature ejeculation after 4-5 thrusts. I can't even stay still inside without struggling like mad.

So, if you find yourself not getting a good hard-on when you jump into the sack, do yourself and ur lover a favour, don't dick it, just use yer finger/mouth/foot(???)..Just kidding on the last bit. Stop masturbating, reduce yer lovemaking, eat more proteins especially arginine, massage ur pubic area excluding the dick with a traditional massaging oil, exercise more, take garlic supplements and most importantly make sure u ain't got diabetes. Plus it laso helps if u've stimulated ur lover good enough till she's wide open inside. Pumping away like a bunny upon penetration is not a good idea. Let ur dick adapt to vaginal environment and vice versa. Let go any notions of pornographic performance. Go slow. If you think u can up the throttle a bit, do so with control.

Hope that helps. Cheers

Hey guys I can totally empathise with you chaps, the whole PE thing is driving me insane. Check out my blog prematureejaculation.blog.co.uk it's a lighthearted look at the problem and solutions. Please feel free to add comments and words of wisdom - Craig

the first time i had sex i didnt ejaculate, but the second time i did i barely lasted.

i havent had sex for about 6 months but the way i think of it is, i was thinking to hard about performing well and pleasing my partner that it got me nervous etc.

but for me, i only seem to have that problem with sex, i dont seem to P.E during foreplay [ie. masterbation] or oral.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years the sex was great and then we split for about 2 months in the middle of our relationship and are currnetly back together while we were split up i slept with someone else he didnt but when i get back with him i felt i had to tell him that i did so ever since we got back together he has been PE and nothing seems to help do you think that he feels that he might not be as good as the other person.... could that be the problem he feels he is not measuring up.... Personally i think hes better in bed just wish it would last as long as it use to help

Hi I'm 28 & iv suffered from really bad premature ejaculation for many years, in the past i could get hard soon after & start up again but now it doesn't wont to get hard again this is very depressing, iv tried all the things on the net to slow things down but they don't seem to work for me.

I was so put off sex that i stayed single for 2 1/2 years because of this problem!!

Iv now found a very nice girl & we've been together nearly a year but & its a big but.... iv still got the problem & she doesn't like it 1 bit she says there's only 1 person to blame & she doesn't mean herself, so i decided to go & see my GP the other day told him everything, he's put me on Paroxetine which is a "PE" drug proven to slow down ejaculation, i just hope it works for me!! if not I'm going to see a specialist! i will let you all no the results.

The only thing is my g,friend doesn't no its getting me down & she doesn't no iv been to see my GP about this! should i tell her I'm loosing interest in sex because of my medical condition & tell her iv been to the docs for help or will she think I'm a looser for going to see my doc for help about my problem??

Some sprays and lubes help increase endurance. Stimula For Men is a lube that helps prevent premature ejaculation.

It's best to discuss this with your doctor if it's a problem (to you). The majority of men only last inside a woman for 2 minutes anyway. It's the way God made us for procreating. Woman takes longer to reach climax (always). Spend your time on pleasing you woman and don't worry about the sex. Make sure she is pleased BEFORE trying to enter her. There are numbing products to help with the sensitivity also. I've also heard that masturbating before having sex with your partner will help build endurance and make you last a little bit longer.

Here's a quick tip. Exhale on your way IN... and Inhale on your way OUT. Focusing on your breathing helps you calm down and stay relaxed, plus, you're less likely to finish when you're exhaling.