Well, I am calling myself "bi" only because if I say "lesbian" then I would be closing doors that I just don't want to slam shut just yet.
Don't get me wrong. I am 99% sure that I only like women but then there is that 1% of the time that I see a guy walking down the street or on tv and go, "hey, he is kinda hot!". I got a real kick in the pants (no pun intended) when I turned on food network and saw the host of "ham on the street". Now that guy is hottttt!
Why should we all decide one way or another? I mean, in our lives as americans, we normally try to stop labels... Stop stereotypes...Exc. Exc.Exc.
Why do you feel the need to slap a label on your forehead?
Every gay, straight, or lesbian person that has decided to super glue that label to their heads has had a fantasy about the opposite sex that they are attracted to.
I have decided that there is no point to labels.
It is no one's business who I am into unless I am hitting on them.
It is no one's concern but my own.
If asked outright then I say I am bi because explaining the details would take hours! (well, if it is just someone at a bar then I am a lesbian but if it is an s&m thing then I am bi, but when it comes to that guy on food network then i'm straight...what???)
labels are stupid because it sets up a wall around you. Hell, in the us if you even say your political orientation it makes people judge you and separates you from 50% of people!
Tell people what they want to hear but don't do anything that goes against your morals.
That is what I have learned after all these years of pondering! Good luck!