Breast Cancer Forum - Do I Need My Right Ovary Removed? Please Help!!!

On april 28th I had a tumor removed from my left breast. On may 2nd I was told it was cancer, I had invasive ductal carcinoma, and every inch they removed was cancer, they did not get it all. On may 2nd I had a ct scan to see if the cancer had spread. Two days later I was told that they did not find anything in my liver or lungs, but they found my appendix enlarged, and tumors on my left tube and ovary. On may 11th I had surgery to remove my left tube, left ovary and appendix, all came back benign for cancer, thank god. During a pre-op visit a lump was discovered in my right breast, so on may 25th I had a double mastectomy. I had expanders and a chemo port placed during the surgery. During the next few weeks I was told that all 16 lymph nodes they removed in the left side were clean, and my pet scan was clean, no more cancer!!! Because of this my oncologist suggested that I take arimidex instead of chemotherapy, but this would require me to have my right ovary removed first. He told me I had a few weeks to decide and during the next few weeks I had two expansion fills, and then a massive infection set in. On june 30th I was admitted to the hospital. On july 2nd I was told I had cellulitis and it had decided to attack my chest, and everything foreign in my body, and I needed emergency surgery. At 9:30pm on saturday night I had all the expansion tissue removed, the two fill ports, the chemo port, a chest wall scrape and a lot of tissue removed from my chest area because of this infection. I was sent home 4 days later with a pic line in my arm so I could still give myself iv's of antibiotics twice a day for 10 days. Then I was on oral antibiotics twice a day for 30 days. This time the plastic surgeon said he will wait until I have been off the antibiotics for 30 days (to make sure the infection doesn't return) then wait another 30 days before we begin reconstruction again. He wants to give me time to heal. But, at this same time I will need to have my right ovary removed so I can begin the arimidex is it absolutely necessary for me to do this? Isn’t there any other cancer drug that may help prevent the cancer from returning? Is it worth the stress of going through menopause early? If anyone has any ideas please let me know. I only have a little while to decide. Right now I am not being treated for cancer at all, I just had the double mastectomy. When I go in for the next surgery to have the expanders put back in I need to let them know my next step as far as cancer treatments. Please help, I am lost as to what to do or where to look for the right answer. Thanks for listening. Susan king