I have the same problem. Only one time have I orgasmed with my boyfriend during the act, and I was on top. I was extremely turned on, and I think that had something to do with it. You can tell if it is hitting the right spot right away. Good luck, and keep trying. That is always fun!! That is what I do.

I can't seem to climax. I have an awsome partner who is willing to do whatever it takes to put me over the top. I have tried everything and just can't seem to find it. I am totally turned on by my partner so it's not from lack sexual energy. Why can't I climax?

The last time I had a mind blowing, extreme, and my god amazing orgasm was with my ex that i dated for 3 yrs on and off. We were just so compatable in bed that I think he had now ruined me. As I am now 23 and he is now completely out of my life and getting married to a way younger model but of course (I'm not bitter LOL) but ever since we split for good about a year and a half ago I have not been able to have even little orgasams?? I even went out and bought a rabbit vibrator, and have used it many times with lubrication and put on a good movie to get my started but nothing I end up falling asleep!! I woukd even go as low as hooking up with old friends (booty calls) which were fun when I knew them back in the day. Thye knew all the right buttons to push with me but now since my ex and our mind blowing sex I get nothing?? Am I ever going to get it back?? Should I just forget about sex all together now? As I cant even have a little excitment down there anymore?? Does anyone have any type of advice for me?? I would be greatly appreciated for it =)

I have been married to my husband for almost two years and been together for 3.. I have a 10 month old son.. ever since I had him I haven't been able to orgasim, so I had went to my OGBYN and talked to him about this.. he had told me it is subconsious, you may be thinking about other stuff and not realize it you realy don't have your head in the game.. for me it was because my husband doesn't want any more kids, I am on bc but i was subconsiously thinking what if i get pregnant again soo i would not allow my self to release!!
Shortly after I talked to my doctor, I just learned to be patiant with my husband, listen to his breathing, and concentrate on the feeling but be RELAXED!! I have to be clitorious aroused first befor any thing so if my husband just tries to stick it in he has been completly miss judged!! soo dont think about im gonna be bord im tired im not having fun.. just RELAX, CONCENTRATE, it just may be more arousing for you to arouse him, tease him.. then you might just get completly turned on and a whole new wolrd could be opening up to you! take my advice just try it..

I agree with a few of you. I'm going through the same thing. i just turned 24 an i have a 6yr old daughter. since her an my bad/abusive relationship with her dad i havent been able to have an orgasam. i sadly had a booty call thinking excitement was missing or mayb he didnt do what felt good to me, jus to him..but no.. i didnt go. an ive been sleeping with my ex for yrs an sadly recently i havent had an orgasm with him either. i dont know what to do. im jus turned off by sex now. i cant even make myself cum. my queer bestfriend says its because i need passion, love, trust, n to RELAX! lol but i still havent found the one.

Your friend is right...You need love....Passion...Want....Be willing to expose your soul to him and take him along for the trip.....Not making love, but his making love to your body....Lust must be there...The wild woman must come out....Let all of your sexual dream appear and be all that you can and want to be....

thanx for the advice!! helps a lot... i have trouble trusting guys. their wondering hands n being able to know when they care from a one night stand. theres a guy ive been close friends with for 3yrs now n 2 days ago we were lying down an he held me really close an jus rubbed my clit n kissed my next n my forehead. we never did more though. i didnt know if that was scary or comforting.

Don't make it scary or comforting...Be who your body tells you to be...Let your reflexes be guided by your emotions...Only open when you feel trust...Remember that you are a special rose...There is not another flower on this earth like you...What you have is special...Who you choose to open your pedals of lust to is to be chosen only by you....If he lets you bloom then he will be the lucky one...If he doesn't, then there will be another day...No two women on this earth are alike...We are all so special....I send you my love...

Caroline