Don't be concerned too much - guys masturbate together more often than you think. Are you masturbating together only, or are you masturbating one another? Even that isn't really wrong because it's just a way that guy friends "help each other out"; doing this does not make you gay or bisexual. Trust me on this - before I began dating him, my ex boyfriend and his friend once masturbated together to porn and they're both straight.

I apologize that i'm not a married man...I'm a college girl, but I know that guys do masturbate together. As long as you do not have sex with your male friend, I tihnk what you guys are doing is perfectly excusable, so don't sweat it. :wink:

Ok im not a men, but my hubby is right next to me reading your post and this is what he thinks. I totally agree with lilypad. If?? Your touching each other thats gay, I dont see how 2 guys can masturbate at the same time in the same room it dosent seem right is kinda odd!! Now unless your with a female their. Not a dude come on. It dosent seem right specially if your married. Why not ivite your wife instead??

No, two guys touching each other does not mean they're gay. In my own opinion, two guys are not officially gay until they develop feelings for each other...Although that doesn't necessarily mean that guy-on-guy sex still means they're straight. But that's not what's happening here.

You must not get out much if you've never heard of straight guys masturbating together...And I know I don't get out a whole lot, so if I kow this, you guys must be hermits or close to it. There's nothing wrong with guys of any sexuality masturbating together - a person can have the most active and perfect sex life of anyone else on the face of the planet, and they would still masturbate...It's got nothing to do with his wife. Perhaps he doesn't ask his wife to watch because he doesn't want her to see his friend, or maybe because she isn't aware of the fact that guys do this a lot and she would be freaked out by it.

But, from what I could tell from his original post, he and his friend were not touching one another, but just masturbating in the same place to the same thing. Nothing's wrong with that.

I enjoy jacking with another guy too and it seems more common than anyone would realise. It is about sex and getting off with no strings. "Gay" is about the whole emotional involvement, attraction, affectionate names and whatnot. I can trade hand jobs with another man and when we're done, clean up, chat a little about our families or work or politics, shake hands and part ways. That's just about being horny and wanting to enjoy sexual pleasure with another like-minded person, not being gay, at least to me.

I agree with cambion. I've also heard of this behavior (even seen it documented in a few web comics).

It does not make you gay if you masturbate in the vicinity of another masturbating man.

how is that not cheating and not gay? it doesnt matter how common, u should get ur wife to help ya out, or let her know ur doin this.... maybe u can be swingers... but i would say ur cheating and acting on homosexual desires... although its not wrong to be that way, if thats what you like..... im not gay bashing......

it is not cheating because neither men are having sex.

It is not gay because neither man feels love for the other.

it matters that it is common because that means it is normal.

How is being a swinger not cheating as compared to masturbating in the same room as someone else? I think you don't get the point that neither of these men are attracted to the other. They are not in love. They don't want to have sex with each other. They simply like sharing the experience of masturbating to porn.

He is not cheating, and he does not (from what I have read) have homosexual urges. I think you need to see more of the world.