Wow, it looks like you were just telling my story!, anyway, I went through all the same things, my husband was just parinoid that we are not able to provide for a baby (which we are in every way) in his mind, we had to have $30,0000 sitting in our savings account before we were "stable" anyway, I managed to wear him down, and let him know how important this was to me, and make him really believe that everything was going to be okay, we own our house, have 2 vehicles, my husband owns a business that is very sucessfull, and I have a well paying job, much less 2 wonderful families that are supportive in every way.

You just need to make him understand how important this is to you, ask him when he thinks that he will be ready and compromise with him.

I also thought about "tricking" my husband into it, but then I thought about how I would feel once it happened (i don't think that I could ever forgive myself for lying to my husband)

Thanks for the quick reply. It helps to know that you had a similar circumstance. Your story sounds exactly like mine. We are also self employed and run a very profitable business. We also have the support of two great families. I have asked him when he thinks he will be ready and he either gets mad that I am bringing up the subject or just says, "not any time soon." I just dont understand why men cant do some things just to please there wifes. It is not like he is going to be home daily caring for a baby. That is what I plan on doing. It is just so hard for me to clear the thought of becomming a mother and tell myself that I will bring the topic back into our conversations a year from now. Its not easy. As women, we have instints and feelings that men could never understand. But as for now I guess I have no choice but to put the topic on hold and hope for a miracle on his behalf. Thanks for listening. It is great to get a response from someone like yourself. Much appreciation.

Like I said before it almost sounds like you are me talking, I am 25, been married for 1.5 years, but been with my husband for 10 years, we are now trying for our 1st. I think that I just wore him down he isn't too thrilled with the trying part yet, but I think when it happens he will be ecstatic. My story goes like this. We had always planned on having a baby right after we were married, so that made me happy enough to wait it out, but then the business came into the picture and I got the response "we can't right now cause you never know if the business is going to make it or not" he told me to wait another 6 months or so and we would talk about it again then, so I did, I waited patiently for 5 months (hehe the extra month was killing me) and still got the response that it just wasn't a good time, lets do it in november he said. At the time, I agreed, but my tears showed him that I wasn't thrilled with the idea at all. A couple of months later I just looked at him and told him that my prescription for my pills ran out in july and I wasn't going back to get another one. I told him that he got his dream with the shop (he considers work his baby) and I have been more than patient with him, and I wasn't prepared to wait any longer. Like I said before I was even contemplating going off bc with out his knowledge. But anyway, he finally agreed, and here we are. I am so excited.

Just maybe try to bring it up every couple of months. Let him know how important this is to you. I know that I had to work really hard to try to calm my hubby's fears, and still am. Do you know what is stopping him? Does he not want children at all? Or is he just freaked out with the responsibility of them? Maybe it would help to try to figure that out and go from there.

Sorry for rambling hoping I helped.

Feel free to let me know if you want to talk more.

Jordan.