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Q: Telling Parents?
asked by: slow_spinning_redemption on August 19th, 2005
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I just found out that i'm pregnant this week (i took two pregnancy tests, both possitive). My boyfriend and I already know what we're going to do after its born. Now the next task is breaking it to my parents. They're conservative christians and trust me and my boyfriend very much. They didn't know that I was sexually active. How did your parents react and do you have any advice to make it easier on them (or me)? Please help.
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JaydensMommy1209
replied on August 19th, 2005
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I'm 16 and I am 6 months pregnant... My parents took the news really well... Which was a complete suprise! But I do have some advice for you. Make your boyfriend be with you to tell them. The father of my baby was there when I told my parents, and I was there to tell his parents too. It makes it sooo much easier, because your not the only one being blamed. They can ask questions that only he might be able to answer, and things like that. Its better to have him there to comfort you and make you feel better, and be as mature and respectful as you can while telling them. Good luck!
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Kimmeh
replied on August 20th, 2005
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I am 17 and 11 weeks pregnant. I told my mom by a letter (which she said was a little cowardly...And its true but I couldnt at the time imagine telling her to her face). She took it very well. She was calm and talked things out with me and was supportive. Now her gradmother genes have kicked in and she is more excited and happy then me, I swear!! Lol. Our relationship has also stregthened because of this. I found it was better that my boyfriend wasn't there because as much as my mom likes him she really wanted, lol, to kick him in his crotch...Not having him around gave her time to think things out rationally instead of freaking out and it gave her time to cool down.

I hope everything goes well for you.
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DaliciaLynn
replied on August 20th, 2005
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My mom and I are close anyways, I told her I was late and she went out and bought a pregnancy test and we took it together, basically.

She told me (because of my situation) that it was meant to happen and that she wanted me to keep the baby, but it was up to me whatever I decided.

Now when we go places together, she tells everybody i'm pregnant and how excited she is. Lol
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poohbear101
replied on August 20th, 2005
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I didn't really have to tell my mom, she just new something was wrong and guessed it but she wasn't upset or anything. I'm sure she was a little disappointed but now shes excited about it, its really kind of cute how she asks how her grandson is doing lol even though we have no idea what i'm having she's positive its a boy while i'm sure its a girl. The rest of my family was shocked needless to say but they've all accepted it also.

If you feel like you need the support of your bf then have him there with you, but if you think it might cause problems then maybe do it alone, but having the support behind you may make telling them easier. Its different with my situation. My family doesn't know the father yet, so its a little complicated. Good luck and remember it will be a shock for them so anticipate some anger but eventually they will calm down.
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sofragileyetsodevious
replied on August 21st, 2005
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I found out I was pregnant about two weeks before I moved to my grandparents' in louisiana to finish high school ... It was harder to tell my grandparents than it was my mom, but for the most part everyone's been really supportive. I'm only a few credits away from my diploma so I plan to move to colorado soon where my fiance's living and finish at an alternative school so i've got time to work part-time and take care of my baby ... My mom's just as scared as I am, I think, but she's glad I have a plan and I think most parents would be the same.

I think in every parent's life there comes a point where they have to accept that their child is going to make their own decisions and the only thing to do is step back and let their child deal with the consequences. It's hard but really there's nothing they can do in this situation ... If you and your boyfriend want to keep the child and have a basic idea of how to handle the situation, they'll probably be hurt at first and maybe try to talk you into adoption but if you show them you're mature and able to face your consequences they'll eventually be supportive. Just stay strong and remember even if they say hurtful things (which hopefully they won't) they still love you...
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TheGoodStuff89
replied on August 23rd, 2005
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Im 15 and 15 weeks pregnant.I told my mom about a week after I found out. I thought it was going to be the hardest thing ive ever done. Suprisingly my mom guessed it before I couldnt even tell her. She was upset because she trusted me not to make a decision like having unprotected sex or let alone sex before marriage.But telling your parents as soon as you can is better, it takes stress off you and the baby. And I promise that things will cool down and it wont be as hard as you think. Just remember that god gave you that baby for a reason and whether your parents support you or not, you will always have god to turn to when things get hard.
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mommy of 1
replied on August 23rd, 2005
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Im sure if you close to your mom, chances are she probably knows, my mom was not shocked when o told her I thought I was on the other hand she was the one that would buy my tampons when I started so that probably gave it away :lol: im sure they will take it bettetr than you think, its usually ten times worse in your head, good luck and keep us posted
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vanessalouanne
replied on August 23rd, 2005
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If all else fails write a letter. That way you wont be interrupted ,
good luck it will all work out.
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