My Story (and How My Mom Took the "baby Fever" Out

When I was sixteen, I wanted a baby. Badly! When my mom heard about it, she found one of those dolls that are used in sex-ed (the ones that cry all day and all night.....) and gave it to me. Her words were:
"you wanted to have a child, so here she is." she made me use all of my earnings from my job to "pay" for diapers for my baby (doll), bottles, formula, clothing and doctor's visits. Sometimes, she'd say as I was waking up in the morning "gabi is very sick, you must take her to the doctor." so, I had to get up at five in the morning and sit in the doctor's clinic (whom she had called before I left home.) for three or four hours before I was "seen". I remember the tears that I had when gabi would start "crying" at 1am and then again at 1:30, then 2am and then 4am. When gabi was "sick" I had to stay home to "take care of her". My mom wouldn't babysit, saying instead "you have to watch your own child. It's not my job." I never went out with my friends anymore. In fact, a lot of my friends stopped hanging out with me after I "had" gabi.

All the while, my mom kept asking "do you still want to be a mother?" I actually didn't feel that it was unbearable for the first few months. After a year of this, I finally screamed that I had had enough!

Believe me, after that experience, I didn't even want to think about having sex or even having kids until I was thirty!


I was homeschooled, and the entire experience counted for a unit of health credit. The money used to "pay" for baby necessities, was put into my college fund.

Much as I hated my mom at that time for what she did, I finally have looked back on the experience and recently thanked her for turning me around.

I'm almost done with college now , i'm in a serious relationship with a great guy, I have my own apartment and I run a successful business.
(i'm 21 by the way)


please wait to have children! Please enjoy your younger years. Believe me, the first time that you have to pay utilities and pay the rent, you will want to go back to the days where your parents did everything for you and all that you had to do was take care of a few chores and go to school.

For those who already have children or are pregnant now, I applaud you!
Being a mom is definitely one of the greatest joys of your life and also one of the hardest things to do and do well.