I'm a 26 yr old mother of two and I have been in a realtionship with their father for 8 years. He has a violent temper and has hit me in the past and made me do things degrading and painful during sex. I know that is abusive behavior. Lately he just breaks everything and screams at all of us. I messed up and was in a car wreck while having a night out with my friends. No dui, it was the weather. Well, since I know his temper I lied, and he found out some truths to what happened that night and naturally blew up. It was honestly just a fun night at a club. No hanky panky, just drinking and dancing. Well after he blew up, my best friend called some friends and came by my house to make sure he wasn't getting too violent and it escalated into a fight between him and some of the guys she called over. Well now i'm suppose to have no contact with any of these people ever again outside of work and he's also trying to get me to find another job. These people stuck around after the accident and came to check on me cause the were worried. Seems awful kind and caring to me. He reminds me everyday that if he sees me around any of these poeple or sees these people out and about he's going to hurt them. Yet he still goes out whenever he pleases and comes home drunk in the early morning. This is all my fault cause I lied to him like as if he was my father and I was in for a big punishment. I feel like i'm going crazy, all this is making me so emotionally tired. It's even affecting my body. Is this how relationships usually go? I'm so confused as to what he thinks and does and why? Any advice or similar resolved situations like this are greatly appreciated.