First of all, i'm 16 years old and i'll be
17 in less than 4 months. Well on july
3rd I met this guy. We had sex. We
became boyfriend girlfriend. Well we had
sex on the: 3, 8, 9, and 12. The first
time he used a condom, 2nd time he
withdrawled and I know there is pre cum, 9
we used a condom, and the 12th he cummed
in me. I don't remember when my period
was in june. Then on the 21st, I got in a
wreck(only involving me) well I got my
blood drawn to see if I was pregnant. It
came back negative. I had my period on
july 24th and it only last 2-3 days.
Which is very abnormal for me. I usually
last 6-7 days. It was also very light. I
also have been feeling really really sick.
All i've been wanting to do is sleep or I
have the feeling that i'm going to vomit.
I don't vomit much and i've never had this
feeling repeatley day after day. I was
looking up on the internet. It's possible
to have a period for a couple days and
still be pregnant. I was wondering if it
was to early to tell when I got the blood
test? I know i'm not thinking I am,
because I really want this and I really
didn't start thinking I was pregnant till
I started reading up on it. I don't know
what to think. Yes, my mom knows that
there was a possiability that I was
pregnant before and i've brought it up
before because my period was so short. So
I don't have to worry about telling her
about being pregnant if I am. But she
said that I have had a lot of stress on me
this past month and half. Which is true,
the guy left me to go back to his ex,
which is my friend, I totaled my first
car, and everyone has been ganging up on
me calling me all these names because of
the guys age.
I do want to be pregnant. I do have a
car, I do have my licenses, when I turn
18, my friend and I are getting an
apartment, and i'm going job hunting
either later on today or saturday morning.
I have experience with kids since i've
been in 4th-5th grade and i'll be a junior
this year. Plus I have a nephew and niece
that I basically helped my brother raised
since their mother walked out on them. I
know a lot about kids and I adore kids.
So please don't tell me that i'm not
ready. I've already heard it from enough
people.
Please reply. I need to get unconfused
and lost
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katy07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana
Posted: 08-12-05 03:19am
I've been reading through this thing about
teen pregnancy. Some pages are
pretty...Wow! Girls going at each other
throats and so on. But I do realize that
if anyone responds, i'm going to be asked
so many questions. But i'm ready to
answer them. If I am pregnant, my dad
already told me he would kick me out.
That's why he doesn't know that i'm not a
virgin anymore! :) but if my mom lets
him, I already have several back up plans.
I could go to minnesota and be with one
of my best friends, move in with my
brother, and other possibilities. No I
don't have a job. But that doesn't mean I
haven't been looking. The economy is
going down and where I live there is no
jobs. If there is you have to be 17 or 18
to work there. I do have a car, I paid
for it but my dad is paying the insurance.
I don't expect to have my parents help
and I don't want my parents help. I'm
pretty mature for my age. It's not like
i'm dying to just have a baby and go out
and have sex. I've slept with 1 guy. If
i'm pregnant, that's great. If i'm not
pregnant, that's great too. I know there
is high school and I know I won't be able
to do as much as I do right now if i'm
pregnant. But the thing is i'm actually
starting to believe I am. Because once I
found out it was negative once I had my
car wreck, I still felt sick to my stomach
and stuff. If I am, i'll be around a
month or less pregnant. But I don't know.
Could of it been to soon to tell when I
had the blood test?? I don't know. I
know i'm still young. I know there is
going to be a huge change in my life. I
know that there was a possiability of
being pregnant, that's why I was save, but
then I found he's allergic to laytex,
which we used my condom that was and well
that's when we stopped using condoms. No
I wasn't on birth control. My mom is
going to put me on birth control if this
guy and I get back together. I don't care
if i'm not or if I am. I love kids and I
want one, but I know i'm young and still
have life ahead of me. My ex
sister-in-law got pregnant at age 15 and
had a kid at 16. Then got pregnant again
and had one again at 18. She left my
brother and the kids and wants nothing to
do with them. I'm not going to be like
that. I'll be a great mother.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-12-05 12:18pm
Blood test can sometimes show up negative
if they test to early... It happen to my
sister and my mom. If you think you
maybe pregnant then go to the doctor and
have them test you again. Only you know
whats going on with your body and dont let
anyone tell you otherwise. Im sorry to
hear about your parents, I think when
your daughter does get pregnant, that is
when she needs you the most and it is a
shame that your parents do not realize
that. I wish you the best and if people
on here do give you a hard time just
ignore them. I know I have been tough on
a few girls here but thats just because
when a 13 year old tells
you she is going to become pregnant and
can get a paper rout to pay for it and
wont listen to anyone regardless of how
sound the advice, you get really
frustrated. Most of the people on here
really do care and want to help. I wish
you the best and let us know when you find
out if you are pregnant.
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katy07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana
Posted: 08-12-05 16:44pm
Thanks! :d today I haven't been feeling
any better. But if I bring it up with my
mom, we'll get in a big arguement just
like before when I told her I think i'm
pregnant. I'll just wait and see if I get
my period. If I do, i'll still take the
test because you can still have your
period even when your pregnant, but if I
don't then i'll go with my friend to buy a
pregnancy test. If it comes back
negative, i'll go tell my mom and have a
blood test done, because the stick isn't
always accurate. My friend took 3 of them
and came back negative and then went and
took a blood test and came back positive.
I don't know. But I got to go it's
storming and I got to fix supper before my
parents get home. Bye!
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katy07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana
Posted: 08-12-05 18:40pm
Well I don't know yet. But my friend and
I are going to get a pregnancy test
tomorrow to see. I'll tell ya what it
says tomorrow. But if I am, I already
have the school part covered. I think.
My mom hasn't gave me an answer yet. But
my friends dad is going to home school me
for my junior and senior year. Which
means if I do get home schooled I can get
a full time job. Which will help me out a
lot. But i'm not pregnant, then it'll
still help me to get home schooled because
it'll help with my grades and I can get a
full time job. But yeah. I just wanted
to post that. So don't lecture me on not
knowing what to do. Like I said I think
things through several times and run it
over in my mind several times. I'm pretty
mature for me age and I know what i'm
doing. But I got to go. My friends
parents are going to call my parents to
see if I can do this or not. So bye!!
Please reply. I would like to get more
advice on this.
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katy07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana
Posted: 08-12-05 23:52pm
Well I find out tomorrow if I can get
homeschooled. *crosses fingers* I hope
so. I've been bringing it up since 8th
grade and my grades aren't really the best
at this new school i'm going to because of
all the drama, class clowns, and stuff
like that. But once I get the answer
tomorrow, my friend and I are going to
look for jobs. Try to get jobs together
because she might be pregnant. Then
tomorrow her and I are going to wal-mart
to get pregnancy test. Which i'm scared
about because my cousin goes there and
well her friend is going out with the guy
I had sex with. I don't want anyone
knowing i'm doing this. I want to tell
the guy myself. He heard it from other
people before because of my cousin. He'll
want a paternity test because my cousin is
spreading rumors around that i've been
sleeping with more people than just him.
Which i'm mad about because he's believing
her over me. But I can't say much because
the guy barely knows me and doesn't know
if I lie or not. But I mean he has
figured out that I don't. Once I find out
i'm pregnant, I got to go find him
somewhere and tell him. Then once he
finds out it is his kid, I think he will
step up and take care of it. He has a
custody of one of his kids. Yes, he has
kids, but I don't want to tell you how
many. His age is also staying a secret
because everyone is already calling me a
hoe, promiscuous person, and so forth
because of it. But yeah. I wish people
would reply, I would like to get to know
some of you people. Even if it is
lecturing me for being stupid for wanting
a kid.
I know all about appointments, I know they
are needy, I know I can't hand my baby off
to my parents if it doesn't stop crying, I
know it cost for baby stuff, and I just
know all of it. I've tooken my niece and
nephew to appointments. I have bought
things for my nephew and niece when my
brother didn't have the money. And yes it
was my money. My niece is just a little
over a year old and wow she is needy but I
adore her to pieces. My nephew had collic
when he was younger and I woke up
everytime he did if he was here. I know
all about terrible twos, my nephew just
got over it. About the parents thing, I
don't want my parents help. One my mom
isn't able to care for kids and my
dad...Well he would hurt my kid. I've
been caring for kids for almost 6-7 years
now. I've taken a lot of classes in high
school about babies. I know that isn't
much. But still. I have my own car, my
parents are paying for insurance and will
be till I turned 18 then i'm on my own, I
have my licenses, and I will have a job
sooner or later. Basically i'm just
asking not to get lectured. I'm not crazy
for wanting a kid, because I personally do
want a kid but I would be happy if I
wasn't. I know i'm 16 and I have my life
still ahead of me. But I don't party like
most kids like my age, I don't drink, I
don't do drugs, and yeah I do spend a lot
of time with my friends, actually I only
have 1 true friend that I see day after
day. Which she might be pregnant. We
plan on getting apartment together once I
turn 18.
Anyway...Please reply. I would like to
get to know some of you. :d
