I dont think it would be. I honestly have sort of gone through the same thing with my husband. The first year of us living together was awesome. We got along so great and were really happy. Just lately we have been fighting a lot and he has not been sleeping in our bed (he says he cant sleep and goes out to the garage or to a friends and come back around 4 to finally go to bed) it is really frustrating and to be honest I dont know exactly what to do. To be completely honest with you, if I were not his wife I would have broken up with him a while ago. I mean now that were married, I wont because I do not believe in divorce. If I were in your shoes id at least take a break. This is usually a good inductor of how things will work out. If you both miss each other then youll probably will end up back together, if not your better off. I know that sometimes guys need the harsh reality of whats going to happen if they treat you like sh*t. Sometimes we need to make sure our boys arent getting to comfterble. They need to realize that it can end, and they can lose you. As hard as that maybe, sometimes that is the only answer.
Good luck to you.

Thank you

i suggested a break the other day and he got worried and things have been a bit better since he's really supportive now when I wana talk (which I do alot due to health issues) and im not too worried about the sexual part of our relationship coz I cant do it anyway it hurts.
But thank you very much for your opinions
take care