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Q: What Do I Do?

asked by: MonkeyChow on November 24th, 2003

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Well....Not really good at this talking thing...But i'll give ya a lowdown real fast of what's up with me. 21, senior in college, got a part time job that works me at least 4 days a week, had about 15 s.H. Of classes this semister, no current gf, and lots of unexpected things happening.

But i'm miserable....I've failed all but 1 class this semister.....My social life is kinda lacking...When stress built up, I turned to lots of video games...But that in turn killed my classes......I tried a social life over the summer...Went to "parties"...Met people I thought might be friends...But it was all superficial, and I realized that that was the reason that I never clicked with those things in hs....I'm not the one to just want to get drunk all the time..I find more purpose then that with life...

But I get lonely as caca...It's been months since i've had a gf *almost a year actually*...And those never actually last for me...My roommate has a gf, and at least someone to talk to...But I find it really hard to open up to anyone like that, cause I get hurt.......Nights are long..Cause I use to suffer from insomnia, but now all I do is sleep all the damn time...Sleep too much for that matter....Life seems monotous.....Material thigns really don't make me very happy anymore...I don't really want any material things anymore......I look to make new friends, but I keep running into brick walls...Noone to really spend time with or talk to...And yes that includes lonliness, cause it would be nice to have someone around

with medical problems in my family, that added to the stress this semister, so i've been overwealmed with stress recently. So I was wondering what I could do? If anyone could help. I use to post on another message board for my college...But most of the people there are superficial a*******s....Not really open minded..Not really willing to listen......I know that when stress built up it killed my classes cause I stopped going...Got insomnia...Fell asleep...Put to much time into games etc........I'm thinking this is all a form of depression...Most likely is....But I was wondering if anyone else had any ideas on how to make this better.

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qt3

replied on November 24th, 2003

Experienced User

If You're Willing to Work At It......

Give cognitive behavioral therapy(cbt) a try as it usually cures depression and anxiety including panic disorder in just 12-weeks. Relaxation techniques may help you out as well but it treats the symptom instead of the cause of the problems. If you want lasting relief and are willing to invest some work in yourself give cbt a try. I played a ton of video games in college too and it did relieve the depression and get in the way of studying. Many universities have cbt programs you can enter free of charge so you may want to look into that at yours too. Good luck and keep us posted.

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MonkeyChow

replied on December 5th, 2003

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Well, I think i've been doing much better....I've been trying relaxation techniques like you've suggested, and it's getting a little easier.....At least I think......But i've still got alot of things in my head that keep going in and out.

I'm seeing more of my friends more often...But I still feel empty....It's still hard for me to find someone to relate to..Someone that just will talk to me intellegently for a little while. I've been trying to date again, maybe come upon someone that might be willing to at least give me the time of day.......Is it bad to feel that kind of lonely? Bad to wnat someone that wouldn't mind spending time with me at these late hours of the night when everyone else goes to sleep?

Everyone always seems to busy for me....I thought at first maybe it's just me....I'm not attactive enough, i'm too boring cause I all I do is movies, video games, bike...*well..I do alot of stuff*....But that's just it...I don't do anythign different from anyone else, so I don't quite get why I can't just find someone who I can just make a good friend...Someone that is willing to try to figure out my messed up head...And maybe has the possibility of understanding me better than most people do......

I know what you're probably gonna say, is that's what my friends are here now for....And they are...Sorta...But they have their own things to attend to too......My one rooomate has his girl....My other just sleeps and plays videogames all the time *antisocial*....And some of my other friends are art students, and out all the time or working.....

So what do I do about that?...Cause that's part of what depresses me alot of the time.......I'm doing what I can now to fix work and school.........Getting that back under control.......*still not good with teh material stuff though...I really don't want anything still*....But i'm still lacking in this department...Any more help you guys can give me?

qt3

replied on December 8th, 2003

Experienced User

Monky,

glad to hear that you are doing a bit better and that the relaxation techniques are of use. I think you need to be more patient with yourself and things will begin to just start falling in place (i know this is harder to do than it is to say as I was there once myself). I would again urge you to see if your university has a cbt program or group you can try as I think this would teach you the tools to deal with all the stuff going on in your head and free up a lot of your energy. Hang in there and keep in touch!

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