Hey, I had my babyshower this weekend and
it was all going well when all of a sudden
my bfs friends get there.They were telling
him to goto a party with them I told my bf
he wasnt going to go b/c he had to be
there with me and he said he wasnt going.
Later on he said he was going to go drop
off his cuz to his house,he did when he
came back every thing was fine till his
friends came back again then I told him
that I didnt want him to leave b/c I
wanted him to be there with me and again
he said he wasnt going so then I had to go
to the bathroom and I told him to come
with me b/c I didnt trust him or his
friends then he gave me his car keys and
told me here so u could know for sure im
not going to leave me being a health
question believed him when I got back from
the bathroom ha was gone his friends had
called some guys to go pick them up I mean
I only took 2min. Tops. In the
bathroom.Well then I called his friend and
he told me that my bf wasnt with them and
I knew they were lying so I told his
friend to tell him that he better come
back home.An hour later he was still not
back I was really mad and sad b/c I
trusted on him.Then he came back 2hrs
later and his stedad was talkin to him
about it and took the car keys away my bf
got really mad then they got into a big
argument and I tried to stop it but coulnt
then he gave him the keys back and left
when I went home my dad went to the liqour
store and comes back telling me that he
saw him with a gurl and 2 other guys.My
dad got into an argument with him and told
him to forget about me and my baby.I
havent heard of him since then.Noone from
his family has heard of him either.Im
really sad because he never done this to
me I really thought he loved me I mean we
went out for 2 years for him to leave like
nothing. My due date is sept 5. And if
hes not there with me when I have my baby
hes never going to see her unless he shows
me that he relly does care about us and
even though its never going to be the
same.I love him so much that I have fallen
into drepression because of this and I
know its bad for my baby but I cant help
it. My family and his family have been
very supportive with me .Im trying my best
to get through this hopefully I forget
about everything when I have my baby!!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-09-05 17:21pm
Im sorry it sounds like your having a
really tough time. You deserve better,
but it probably is tough on him.
Pregnancy is a hard thing to deal with
period and when your a teenage boy im sure
that makes it ten times worse. You
deserve to be treated with respect. If
he decides not to be a man about this then
your better off without him. Good luck
with everything, im sure it will work out.
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christa33us
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2005 Posts: 104 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-09-05 18:26pm
You know what honey, you do not deserve
this. You are truly better off without
someone who is going to put his partying
needs and friends before you and the baby.
You need to concentrate on you and
having this baby very soon! Don't try
to depend on someone who is not dependable
and clearly this guy isn't. It sound
like you have very supportive parents and
lean on them, they'll do their best to
lead you in the right direction.
Once this baby arrives, you will not have
time for his non-sense.
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mom2b15
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2005 Posts: 17 Location: chicago
Posted: 08-09-05 20:17pm
Hey well my exbf still hasnt caled me and
I really dont care no more because im over
here all sad and hes over there medical
answer an other gurl.Yeaterday his aunt
called my mom and told her that when he
used to live with her he used to take
different gurls to sleep over and she said
that it was a different one everytime.She
alredy kicked him out because of that but
she says that hes probably doing the same
thing still.Im not going to go back with
him and hes not going to see my baby
either if he didnt care now hes not going
to care later on but one thin I do know is
that hes going to regret everything.Its
just hard for me to forget about him
because he was the firt guy I loved and
the only one ive ever medical answer. But
imma get through this and forget about him
and find my self an oother guy thats going
to treat me and my baby better.
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-09-05 20:20pm
Good for you, take his as$ to court for
child support lol
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Anabelle
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2005 Posts: 4 Location: New-Brunswick
Posted: 08-10-05 13:41pm
Yeah I do think you can do better .
If you need to talk you can e-mail me at
venyssa@
hotmail.Com im a very good
listener..
Good luck with everything..
Nessa
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Nicknack
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 272
Posted: 08-10-05 19:29pm
That's why you should be married before
having babies...Makes things a lot easier.
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Happiness03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 333
Posted: 08-10-05 20:19pm
nicknack
wrote:
that's why you should be
married before having babies...Makes
things a lot
easier.
not always! My dad was abusive to my mom,
but they were married. It all just
depends on the guy because marriage
doesn't always change their behaviors, if
a man is going to cheat, he will cheat,
there is nothing there to stop
him...Married or not.
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RoxxyArtemis23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Alabama
Posted: 08-17-05 01:17am
Omg, hun, I know exactly how you feel. My
boyfriend and I went through that same
ordeal. It was like reading a story from
my past. Im sorry you are going through
this, it is so hard to feel that alone.
All you want more than anything is to feel
loved and understood, right now and he
isnt giving you that. What you have to
understand is he is going through alot now
too, no he doesnt have pains and aches and
the ever elusive labor to look forward to,
but the idea of growing up when you are
young is the scariest thing a guy can face
(or not face which is happening here). My
boyfriend and I went through some really
hard times emotionally, like what you
mentioned, there were times when I wouldnt
see him for weeks- he would be partying
and doing stupid things while I was
panicked, stressed, and depressed. But, I
never gave up on him and I never told him
that he couldnt see his child (i dont
think thats right) and finally he came
around. He was just scared and guys react
differently than we do. Im not saying to
get your hopes up, im just saying dont
close that door yet. My boyfriend and I
have been together for almost 6 years now,
we have 3 beautiful children that we love
very much with one more due any day, money
has been hard... But you have to have
faith in the person you once saw in him
and understand that although he may be
hiding from his feelings about all this
right now, he is still the father of your
baby and you owe it to your child (and
yourself, I dont know what I would do
without my guy around to help me) to
really try to make things work. I know
its hard, believe me. I hope whatever
happens that you are happy and that
wonderful opportunities come to you and
your baby.
Roxxy
