Uhm...Not everyone bleeds the first time they have sex. Sex is sex. Popping the cherry is just ripping the hymen open, as most people see it, the first time they have sex. Some people bleed some people dont.

I didn't bleed when I lost my virginity. Even if your hymen tears, you don't necessarily bleed.

Why do people think you need to "pop the cherry" before you are actually not a virgin anymore??? When have they ever proven that every girl has a hymen that needs to be popped? Some girls dont even have a hymen. And why does it seem that no one has considered that maybe shoving something up there like, oh say, a tampon would break it long before a penis ever got up there?

I didnt bleed at all when I had sex the first time. I also wasnt in any pain it was just a nice time :p lol. It differs for everyone.