I really want a baby.. Its all I can
think of for the last 6 months or so.
Every time I see a mum playing with her
baby it makes me yearn for one. Even the
thought of the arguments as it grows up,
having to pay for things for it, and all
the other 'bad' things, I look forward to.
Thing is I sometimes feel wrong wanting
one because im only 18 and I dont know,
sometimes I just think everyone will go on
about how young I am and have life to live
before having a baby etc
what do you lot think? Do you think 18's
too young to actually want a baby?
I'm living with my partner we've been
together about 2 years now and we're both
working. So its not as though we're still
in school and living off my parents or
anything.
Is there anything anyone can think of to
help stop me wanting a baby so much?
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Steph92904
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2005 Posts: 28
Posted: 08-05-05 11:52am
Well I am 17 and I am about to have my
baby and I wanted one. I don't think
there is anything wrong with that. I am
engaged and I work ful time and so does my
fiancee and we just bought a house. Just
make sure you are ready because life will
change for you.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-05-05 12:00pm
Nope.. I think no one can make you stop
wanting a baby. I have totally been
there and am still totally there. Im 19
and married, have been for a year. I
know what its like and expecially now that
all
of my friends are pregnant it's
tough. I think that if your financially
independent, can give a baby everything it
needs .I.E love, money, good medical care,
a safe place to live, your attention.
Then its up to you to know when your
ready. 13 year olds, 14, year olds and
so on who still live with there parents,
do not have jobs and are still in high
school are not ready and it is ridiculous
for them to even consider having a baby.
That is selfish immature and stupid.
Relying on your parents is not an option.
But I think personal maturity has a big
role in knowing when you are ready to take
on the responsibility of a child. Just
remember that you cannot give it back.
For the rest of your life you have to
support, love, and be there for this
child. No more just going out at the
last minute, no more spending your pay
check on make up or a cute outfit, no more
sleeping through the night for a while,
and so on. I think if you know the
reality of what it is to raise a child and
can handle that then go ahead. I
personally think you should wait until
your married but thats just me. Id be to
afraid not to now a days and have a guy
who when things get tough he can just walk
away. I dont know I try not to judge
people by their age. I think you have to
know someones situation before you can
judge. I know that my husband and I are
ready for a baby. We have our own house,
a great income, medical insurance, both
have nice dependable cars, supportive
families, and a ton of love to give a
child. I raised my niece ( and I mean
ive had her throw up in my mouth, got poop
under my nails, sleepless nights, taking
her to the doctors, ect. ) it was
really tough and sometimes I wanted to rip
my hair out but you know what, I adore
this child and would die for her.
Basically it comes down to this. A lot
of 18 year olds are not ready to have a
kid. But some are. I know that I never
drink, party, do drugs, whatever. The
most exciting thing my husband and I do is
go to the movies and dinner occasionally.
I know I would be ready ( and really I
dont care what other say because they dont
know me) but like I said a lot of 18 year
olds and even 30 year olds who are not
ready. It just depends on the person.
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-05-05 18:05pm
I dont think it is wrong to want a baby,
but it is a lot harder once that baby
comes than you could ever imagine, my
daughter is 7 now and it is still hard
sometimes, I would never change anything
but it is hard, I had no teenage years, no
partys, no girls night out, but you are
older than I was you are an adult and have
the right to have a baby if you want one,
good luck with what you decide :)
I think if you can support a child, and
don't look for your parents to support you
or your baby then go for it.
I've always thought being a mom at a young
age was awesome because you have more
energy and etc.
Now i'm 3 months pregnant and I think
about the future and it scares me, I know
i'll go through a rough time sometimes and
I have to give up a lot to raise my baby,
but I love my unborn child and i'll love
what he or she becomes.
I was on birth control for 6 months before
I got pregnant, I guess I was one of the
lucky ones!