Ive been with this guy for like 10 months. Recently I had gotten into his email and seen an old message where it sounded like he was breakin up with this girl at the end of oct...Which we woulda just started talkin. Well then I noticed him sending her a sexual text message one night awhile back, and he actually had me drive him to her house one night (she wasnt there) and he made me park on the street so she couldnt see the car (supposifly it was a guy that he was needing to get money from). I didnt know it was her house at first but I figured it out and he lied to me about who lived there, then I caught him there a week later and he lied to me more. A couple weekends ago we got into a big fight about it cuz I seen more text messages between him and her and he was askin her out to lunch and she said she had plans then he called and asked me! It sounded like he had went to her job to give her something. That same day there was an email from her with a list of shoes for her and her 2 kids (that arent his). So that friday we got into a big fight about it, I told him I was done and he could go on and be with her cuz I wasnt going to be second choice. Especially since we've been talkin so long (and I even got on the pill so we could stop using condoms) and then all this is comin up. Finally on sunday he calls and gives me some bs about his brother thats in prison and those are his kids and this and that. But I dont believe it.
This really hurts cuz I was practically in love with this guy. I cant understand why he would keep lyin over and over when he knows id do anything for him and id never do him wrongly. I mean it sounds like this girl just uses him and here I am, not to brag but I feel like im a pretty damn good girlfriend.
Maybe there is a chance hes not lyin but I dont think it looks like it...Im not sure what to do. I thought about talkin to him about it and tellin him that its driving me crazy and makin me not trust him so he needs to do something to make me feel more secure with it like call her and kinda introduce us or something if she is his brother g/f. If he wont do that I think im going to have to be done...And if it comes to that im tempted to call the girl myself and see whats going on but im afraid she'll be nasty!
I dont know...:( sorry for rambling and any helpful advice is appreciated!
Oh yeah to add even more confusion...I think he may be bipolar, (found some bipolar meds). Plus he seems to say how he feels smothered at times, when I have backed off and usually dont call him and wait for him to call me. If 1 day goes by that I dont talk to him or call him, he'll call me the next day and go on about "who's his replacement"...I just dont get it...:( he wants me then he doesnt...Then it looks like hes messin with someone else :(
