Wow! Life can be so hard sometimes. It seems unfair that you should have to be cooped up in that house. I strongly suggest you talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you are becoming severly depressed. Tell him that if you can't get a job or join a women's group for mother's to be you will lose it. Be honest and up front with him. Tell him you appreciate all his hard work, but you need some interaction with the world so you can make friends.
Why don't you write a letter or try calling your parents. Even if it's just a letter, write them and tell them your feelings. Tell them you need at least their emotional support. Tell them that you aren't asking them to accept your situation, but you are their daughter and that will never change so they could at least call to say they love you every once in awhile.
I also suggest taking walks. Go for 30 minute walks or even just 15 minutes and get some fresh air. Being in the house all day is so unhealthy for anyone. It can make depression so much worse.
You and your husband should apply for acchs(access). It is insurance for low income people. Not for the car, but for your health. You could get into see a Dr. Who could help with your depression and maybe even hook you into some places to find jobs and make friends.
I will say some prayers for you and I wish you the best of luck!!

I agree,

1) talk to your husband
2) write to your family (parents & others) & friends back where you used to live.
3) go for short walks outside everytime you get upset & look at all the beauty of nature
4) find a women's group for mums to be/young mums (you'll be one soon & will benefit from their support & advice) - if you can't get to town do this on-line
5) check out about the health insurance
6) are there any community help organizations (check phone book or local library) that might be able to put you in touch with some free legal aid & other help you obviously need
7) smile - trust me do it - right now- smile you will feel better, every time you look in the mirror smile, put smilie faces up everywhere, dray them in the dirt when you go for a walk & smile, it really does help you feel better.

:d hi new mommy,

how are you doing? Manoz and purple have given you some good advice. Have you taken any of it? If so what have you done?

Please let us know. Getting kinda worried here!

Well sorry guys that I haven't responded-i posted so long ago, months ago actually and nobody responded for so long that I just gave up. Well today I got an email that people responded, so thank you all-i appreciate it so much.

For an update, i'm now 24 weeks, 3 days pregnant and doing well. I've still had no real bad complications. We found out at 16 weeks that we're having a girl, and we're naming her ashleigh mae, after tj's grandmother. She's due april 23.

My husband did not end up going back to work, and finally just found another job about 2 weeks ago. We haven't paid rent yet, and our landlord is about to kick us out, but my husband did get a good enough job that we need to move over there anyway(its over an hour and a half away). Also, it will turn out to be a great paying job as well. The time that he was home was good and bad. Bad because we had no income and were struggling, but we got foodstamps and stuff. It was good, however, because it gave us time together again and brought us a bit closer.

I still have no friends, but i'm not as depressed as I was. I do still keep in touch with my family(my mom) and she's accepted and is excited(she says) about being a grandma, but actions speak louder than words. My father was great, he sent us some money when our car got impounded for no insurance and got the car out for us and got us insurance. Unfortunately my husband will lose his liscense because of that.

I joined an aol mommies group online, which is great because I always have email and chatrooms to go to when i'm online, with mom's of all ages, some my age and pregnant, my age with 4 kids, older and pregnant, older with many kids. Its very nice and releiving.

Also, I got a job finally, at mcdonalds but at least i'm getting out of the house. They were the only people that would hire a pregnant woman. Unfortunately, the pregnancy is taking a toll, the baby sits on a major nerve and makes standing very painful. The Dr. Put me on bed rest for a couple days to try to shift her but she must take after her fathers stubborness...Lol. I can only work 5 hour shifts now, but I prefer that to 8 hour shifts. This made my boss mad, though, and she only gave me 7 hours this week. But oh well.

So, as you can see, i'm surviving. Life isn't as perfect as I would like it to be, but I can be blamed for getting married so early and having a baby. Hopefully i'll be able to start school again in the fall.

I think I speak for all 3 of us when I say we're glad things are looking up & that you & the baby are well & it's great that you & your husband got that time together before the baby comes along.

Keep smiling again I mean it do it as much as you can, get into the habit before the baby is born because babies really tire you out & stress you. So you need to develop some ways of coping with all that now, when you have 2 seconds to think!!

Some ways of destressing when young ashleigh mae arrives is to put her in a pram/stroller & take her for a walk, anywhere (indoors/outdoors/shops whatever) it relaxes you & her at the same time so makes everyone happier. You will panic about everything when she arrives, that's just because you're a new mum & has nothing to do with age. Also don't be too set on going back to school after she's born, it just may not be possible straight away. No-one can take on everything at once. Give yourself some time to recover & to get used (not that you ever really do!!) to being a mother & enjoy the cuddles.

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hi,

what 'purple' said. I too, am very glad things seem to be working out for you. It's also great that you and your baby have good medical care. I think it's good that you are in a group for new moms. They will be especially helpful once the baby arrives as you will probably experience 'post partum depression' (perfectly normal) and they will be able to help you through this as well.
It sounds like 2004 is off to a good start for you.

Take good care and keep in touch!!

Well, how are you now?

Renee