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Q: Bulimia How Do You Tell Your Parents?

asked by: bianca on July 29th, 2005

New User

Hi I sort of just accidentally found this today, but whatever i'm glad I did.
I've had bulimia since last january so I guess for about a year and some. It started out exercising and good great grand but now it's all I think about and sometimes I even get a kick out of this control you get. I like the feeling of a flat empty stomache. Yesterday my parents keep trying to talk to me and even bombarded me with this huge envelope of eating disorder information. My mom even went to a support group thing the whole afternoon yesterday. She found empty laxative wrappers in my room supposedly looking for something. I didn't care I was so relieved she didnt notice my garbage was filled with 2 different days of puke.
They found puke in my garbage before but I blamed it on drinking so much alcohol that bbq.
Anyways, apparently my brother told my best friend that 'our whole family knows, it's obvious. But we're not a confronting kind of family. Tell bianca to double flush'

lol which is funny, cuz I like quadruple flush that damn toilet.

Anyway, so I think they pretty much know but I don't know how much they know. They're leting on that they 'think' I take laxatives because I eat barely so I get constipated and frustrated. But I know it's more.

I know it's bad I want to stop but I don't want them to take away this frmo me cuz I feel like it's all I have that's mine. Something that I can actually control you know?? But I can't ignore that it's killing me

how far deep is everyone??
I have like the worst electrolyte balance
an irregular heartbeat
i don't even need to use my finger anymore I can just bend over and burp it out
i passed out the other day at work in my backroom for about 10 seconds
my throat is pretty much burned with an extra hole
i'm psychologically paranoid and believe that everyone is secretly bulimic in this world

and i'm going to stop here for now because I must go barf before I go to work. I want to stop so my babies won't be more messed up than they already might have to be.

Replies(3)

Nikia

replied on July 29th, 2005

Experienced User

If It Is Really That Bad, You Need to See a Doctor, Like Now

And eat some bananas and drink gatorade and keep it down in the meantime. Electrolyte imbalance and irregular heart rate is not something to mess around with. You could literally drop dead.
As far as parents, my dad knew that I am anorexic from just talking to me over the phone even though I hadn't said it directly. He had last saw me when I weighed 30 pounds more. My mother has always been a perfectionist and said that I was fat when I wore size 8 (when I was heavier) so I am not even going to attempt talking to her about it.
Strangely since I have come to terms with my eating disorder, I have become overly paranoid about people having eating disorders. I've become suspicious about anyone who is underweight, lost weight that they didn't have to lose, or isn't eating much. I think that it is a combination of justifying our disorder and being genuinely concerned.
Anyway, get help. When it gets to the point that you could drop dead, like you are, that is the only choice if you want to live.

damsel

replied on July 29th, 2005

Experienced User

Your family sounds so the same as mine! They read my diary and found out everything, but onl referred to it as 'body image issues' and they gave me all this info on eating disorder and how bad it is and what causes it. Like I dont know, I may have an ed but it doesn't make me ignorant you know? I know how bad it is, I know its caused by warped body image, lack of controll and a screwed brain. My parents also have been going to support groups and draging me alone, I find its best to humour them and do as they say. It makes home life so much easier. I'm very angry at my parents for suddenly expectine me to get better when i've been this way for ages, I know I want to be better but I need to take my own time. You should probably see your doc and get him/her to refer you to a shrink, so that you have someone impartial to talk to and create a plan of getting better that works for you. I hope it all works out, keep posting here and let us know! Xoxo

bianca

replied on July 29th, 2005

New User

Yeah it's pretty bad to the point that I thought I was having palpitations and stomache ulcers. I involuntarily twitch and shake in certain muscles, mostly my legs and arms after I barf. That's why as much as I want to hold on to barfing I know I really shouldnt. And on top of that my hair is falling out and hairties give me bruises on my wrists.

So far the only people who know are my two best friends, and my brother. One of my best friends told him and my brother really doesn't care that much I don't think he even told my parents anything that he knows.

And yeah I know exactly how you feel damsel. It's sort of like all of a sudden you want to be around me as if it's going to make up for all that 'lost time' before. My mom asked me if I want more information on all these eating disorders but honestly I think we all know our ed very well.

I think I will tell them though tomorrow, because at least theyre approaching me more nicely. Before they were like yelling at me as if how dare you do that youre so selfish youre ruining the family blahblah. My mom even said you better not be like this when grandma comes. So anyways, we'll see how that goes tomorrow. Unless I chicken out >_<

and yah honestly I get sooo paranoid about things like i'll look at girls and be like I wonder if theyve been barfing.. Or like how can that girl eat that and still be thin?? She must be barfing. But for some reason when I see other sites about like bulimia and pro-anorexia it makes me feel more upset that they talk about it like it's some trendy fad or something. And I kinda feel at the end of it that they're taking away my bulimia by trying to use it as some kind of tool or something. I dont know.. Im sorry if I don't make any sense

so i'm gonna talk to them tomorrow... We'll see how it goes. And maybe support group wont be so bad.. If its anything like these forums itll make me feel better (except for maybe the whole trying to make me give up barfing part)

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