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Q: What to Do?
asked by: Think It Through on July 25th, 2005
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My b/f and me have been dating for a good while and he is already talking about us moving together,getting married,and having kids but mostly having kids dont get me wrong I love kids I take care of my sis kids all the time one is 2 and one is 7 months and I love them to death it just that I dont think I am ready for a kids I am also in skool and 13 and he wants a kids and I shock!!
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Staylor
replied on July 31st, 2005
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What!!!!
How old is he? Girl you are way to young for this you have your whole life ahead of you and besides at thirteen your body isnt fully ready for a baby. Plus how would you guys get married it is illegal unless your parents sign. Dont worry about it-- tell him that he is going too fast and you would like to slow down and just have fun right now. If he still wants to pressure you maybe he is not the one for you. Believe me!!! There are plenty of fish in the sea and I know you dont believe me and you like him and he is the fish that you want but they keep getting better each time I know from personal experience.
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starinmyjar
replied on July 31st, 2005
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No Way!
If you're not ready, you're not ready. Simple as that. :]

don't even think about babies for a good 10 years. Kids are wonderful, but when you have them, they become your life. You still need alot of time to grow and have many many experiences.

And don't let your boyfriend pressure you. And, i'm not one to judge, but if he's younger than 18, he doesn't really know what he wants yet either. Just let time pass.
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Think It Through
replied on August 2nd, 2005
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I Think About It
I think about how he tells me that he wants to move in with me and marry me and have kids now he is wanting to have sex with me and he is only 16 almost 17.I know I sound crazy but I told him that I want a furture and I want kids but not now kids are money and I dont have that right now. I even tell him that I first need to finish skool.But now he gets mad at me but I say if u dont respeast my body and what I think then its over and he still calles me and says he is srry but I now I think about it and I need more help and he tries to get me to go out to parties and I seem that I dont trust him anymore so I need more advise!!!
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love.
Megan
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starinmyjar
replied on August 2nd, 2005
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Sweetie, if there's one thing that's definite, it's that if he loves you like he says he does, he will respect you and your body. Now this is just me, but if you deny him the sex, you'll see his true colors. Don't let him touch you, and see how he reacts. If he's worth it, he'll wait for you. :] if he keeps asking and begging... Well, that's a bad sign.

You want a boy who will respect you for your personality and mind, not your body. And he won't buy the cow if the milk is free, you know?

And just for the record, telling a woman he'll sweep her off her feet and carry her to the tower and live happily ever after with her is just what she wants to hear.

You want sex, whenever you have it, to be totally free of doubt or guilt, because you want it to be one of the best experiences of your life. Don't settle for anything less.

<3,
effie
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starinmyjar
replied on August 2nd, 2005
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Oh, and I forgot to mention...

Of course you don't want kids!! Education is the most important thing you should have to worry about right now. Nothing else!
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Think It Through
replied on August 14th, 2005
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Well I told him that and all he says is that he want to see me and then he gets mad when he cant see me now I am even scared if him and I always told myself that I wont get like this but its happening to me.Well he now is talking about that he loves me and that he is trying to be there for me but he drinks alot and he smokes alot of ciggs and he goes out every single night plus he works I look at him and ask him how can u do that.But now I need even more advice then anything :cry: :(
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starinmyjar
replied on August 16th, 2005
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Love shouldn't make you worried or scared. Break up with the guy. If he bothers you still, tell your parents.

There are better things out for you. <3
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Think It Through
replied on November 23rd, 2005
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Worried
My guy and me are still together.We still dont get along cause he doesnt like my family.He dont like them he says.Only time he sees them is when he comes to get me.I ask him to come over for holidays and he says no.It hurts me that he doesnt want to spend holidays with me and my family.I see his family and I am ok with them time to time.I dont anything about his family and I see them when he vist them .What should I do.I am worried.

Love megan :( :cry:
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LITTLE LISA
replied on November 24th, 2005
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Re: What to Do?
think it through wrote:
my b/f and me have been dating for a good while and he is already talking about us moving together,getting married,and having kids but mostly having kids dont get me wrong I love kids I take care of my sis kids all the time one is 2 and one is 7 months and I love them to death it just that I dont think I am ready for a kids I am also in skool and 13 and he wants a kids and I shock!!


bless !!!

When I was at school I use to say that all the time I love you were going to get married etc lol its what kids do...

As you are a teenager though have u been told about birth control ? Alot of kids are having kids these days
they confuss sex with love and thats why this is happening !!!!!
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