Want to Hear From Someone Who Is Older:)

I was attempting to put up a catchie subject line so you would read, but after I read it I had to laugh as i'm thinking your immediate answer might be: "well, noooooo!" ha!

Ok, I thought I would post this for whatever. I'm a guy and probably older than any body else in this forum and here's my two-cents for ya.

Sex really has -- for the most part, two purposes: (1) making babies and hopefully into a healthy home that is enriched enough that the parents are mature enough and prepared to take on that responsibility and (2) to provide intimate relational pleasure. I think I worded that correctly, hopefully. But read both of them again, they're important.

Sex when you're 16, 18, 19 etc. .... When the whole purpose is nothing more than just because it's saturday night type of thing is pretty stupid for a number of reasons; if you don't believe me, just read more of this forum and other reasons too .... And I would like to get into those:

sexual intercourse is "extremely" emotional. You have no other frontiers to explore after that. More importantly, your emotions are still very unsettled ... And if so, how are you ever to provide intimate relational pleausre at such a young age, you see?

The last thing you want to do in that regard is press the button that explodes all the emotional sensors that you have. I don't know if this makes any sense or not. When I was young I heard the exact same arguments from some others too, so, it has nothing to do w/ the times, thats a very old excuse.

I don't blame any young people of any age but I do blame the hollywood or the producers of television these days. Immediately following the 6 o'clock news we have topics of sex - that is stupid too at any age of time.

Well, ha, now that i've typed this out and read it ...... I doubt very much i'll win the war! But I think i'll post it anyway because i've been there and I know it's true. I was lucky and a lot of people will be lucky and will make it through ok. However, a huge number don't. A huge number get permanently harmed by pulling the trigger to much to soon and that's the sad part of it all.

There does come a time though when I say you can let her rip!! I'm just saying, you really need to temper it down until then. That time is a bit different for everyone but i'm sure it's after age 20. Crossing that line prior to then is sort-of like opening the breakfast food at 1p.M on friday, then what is there to do saturday morning but that's not all it's like.

It's the emotional plugs it creates that really have no place to plug into and if connections are found, they're not right because you're still changing so drastically. Here's one good of many examples: a young girl experiences sex and becomes so emotionally tied to x boy that she changes her whole life in the next 4 to 6 years .... She doesn't go to the school she would have, she doesn't take the time to devote to something she really dreamed of and was fully capable of doing because she's so, now, tied to this also changing boy, who after 5 years decides he's going to go another direction!!!!

That's a very very brief item of the power of sexual intercourse but one you need to think long and deep about. What are you're personal dreams and hopes for you? Write them down and if you can stay on track and no matter what, then maybe, just maybe, you've got the emotional maturity to make it. But any deviation is a wrong plug-in somewhere. But sexual intercourse while very young is just so stupid, you're just robbing yourself.
It is so difficult to find the right words to explain. You're walking a fine line of a huge interior bomb that can ruin you.

Have you ever seen two very young kids (boy and a girl) who are "clinging" each other and "you just have a very very strong idea they've probably had sexual intercourse" because they really do look "out of place", they cling to each other like maybe they have all the wrong plugs plugged in don't they. Their messed up with all the emotion of it all.
If your're already in that boat you can't see your ship. You need to ask honestly to someone else and if you do, they'll give you an honest answer, maybe. If not, I just did. Young kids who are clinging to each other and attempting to handle it look out of wack! Period:) did that help? Doubt it.

Hope this helps in some area. Happy dreams.