Please! Please! Need Advice Posted: 07-22-05 21:39pm
I am 32 yrs and my boyfriend is 44 yrs.
We have been in a relationship for 3
years. Last year in sept. I caught him
cheating on me with a women in his
apartment complex. I confronted him and
he begged for a second chance & he
left her alone. She got pregnant and did
not contact him until after the 7th month.
She just gave child up for adoption a
month ago. Plus, he just moved to
washington dc this past weekend to start
his new job. The transition of new
apartment and job is not going well.
2 days ago I just told my boyfriend that I
was pregnant. I taken 3 pregnancy tests
and they were positive. Plus I went to my
doctor yesterday and got confirmed. I
called him on his cell phone to tell him
that my period did not start and I taken a
pregancy test. I told him it was positive
and he told me that he was at work and he
will call me later. He included that he
needs to think about the situation. 3
hours later I haven't heard from him and I
called him back. He was on his way home
from work. I asked him what is his
thoughts and he said that he is in shock
from all this and needs time to think
about it.
I called him yesterday morning and gave a
suggestion that I can put my furniture in
storage and move up to dc. He told me he
haven't thought that far ahead. I asked
him what does he want to do and he said he
didn't know. I expressed to him that I
don't feel any support from him and he
said that he is still shocked and needs
time think about it. I told him that I
feel left out in the murk and he repeated
several times that he is not leaving me.
He told me that he has been working at his
new job for 3 days and he didn't need this
situation dumped on him right now. I told
him that I did not plan this. I have been
taking birth control pills for 3 years and
somehow it failed me. He even seen me
take the pills when I spent nights at his
old apartment. It's been 2 nights and he
has not called me. I don't know if he
will come to terms of what is going on.
We planned to have me moved up to dc in 6
months after he gets settled with his job.
He told me more than once that he wants
to get married the end of next year.
Right now, I feel like he is being
self-centered and is running away from the
situation. Especially after what he went
thru with his exlover. I understand he is
having a hard time in dc but this
pregnancy is just as important as what is
happening around him. I would appreciate
any thoughts.
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armychick83
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 6 Location: PA
Posted: 07-23-05 02:06am
I understand what its like to be scared,
he is probably scared also. Give him
some time to think and if he does not come
around, then he was not worth your love
anyhow. There are plenty of guys out
there who would love you and your baby if
he can not take responsibility. Good
luck
I just got dumped by my boyfriend. I
called him to get some information
regarding his blood type since I am rh
negative. He told me that he had made
his decision of what he wanted to do. He
accused me of setting him up by getting
pregnant on the sly. I told him I was
shocked that he would have such a low
opinion of me. We have been together for
3 years and can't believe he would think I
would do such a thing. I told him that I
spoken to a friend to get hired looking
for a second job. Why would I make plans
to move up to dc and plan a pregancy
(behind his back) at the same time. His
response is that he doesn't know what he
believes. He included as far as he is
concerned there is no us.
I feel so used and discarded. He claimed
to love & care for me and he leaves me
in a blink of an eye. That proves he
never was supportive of me in the first
place. I am heartbroken but I will
survive. He will get what he deserves in
the end. Karma will always catches up.
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spd
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Joined: 15 Jul 2008 Posts: 1
hello Posted: 07-15-08 16:38pm
hey been off pill 4 five weeks now and
tryin 4 a baby , my period was 5 days late
i done a test it came up negative but i
have now came on but only very slight and
very painful . could i be pregnant x
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Moo
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Re: hello Posted: 07-16-08 05:51am
spd
wrote:
hey been off pill 4 five
weeks now and tryin 4 a baby , my period
was 5 days late i done a test it came up
negative but i have now came on but only
very slight and very painful . could i be
pregnant x
start your own thresd, this one is 3 years
old.
If you've tested negative and have started
a period you're not pregnant. It can take
up to a year for a healthy couple to
conceive so look forward to next month!