I had the same issues and I just kept inundating them with information from the web (reliable) and any information from my md's. They seem to understand more than my husband. I am constantly in pain and he gets tired of hearing about it and then when I just stop telling him I am in pain, my fingers are swollen and look like hot dogs and my wedding ring almost popped off my finger he thinks oh she is better!
The best thing you can do is to get as much information as possible and fill your life with positive things. This disease is ruthless and painful. I was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Just meet with your doctor and get informed and accept it.
I was diagnosed for sure in sept. After three years of mds and medical tests. It was a relief becuase there is concrete evidence that there was really something medically wrong with me and I was not crazy.
I hope my response helps you.