Hi,

i have been living with my fiancee for about 4 years. We also have 3 yrs old daughter.
She has never been married, and I had unsuccessful previous marriage.

Everything looks fine... But somehow I feel like she does not really love me and does things as "she has to". Something like obligation to make me feel happy.
Because of the bad experience with my previous marriage, I am/was not in a hurry to marry again. I love her, and think that strong relationship is more important than having papers that you are married.
Yesterday, she had her e-mail opened on her computer. I looked through it (i do not spy on her, but this somehow happened) and saw few e-mails she exchanged with some guy. She congratulated him with his birthday and sent him lots of kisses and hugs... Then he suggested to runaway with her (calling her my love) to an exotic place... She replied something like: "don't rub it in... I think this is an excellent idea... Miss you xxxx ".

These emails were from an year ago, and exchanged within 1-2 months period.
I was shocked. They just fueled my feeling that something is not right.
Now I am puzzled what to do. I talked with her, without telling her what I saw. She said she loves me and everything sounded really nice....

Should I take this e-mails seriously? Should I ask her directly about it and risk her accusing me of spying?
I am trying to think of these e-mails as she had some bad time and needed some fantasy to relax and escape.
The difficult question is - if we get married, and she misses somebody else... This marriage will not last or at least will not be happy... Is she just using me?

Any advices are appreciated.

D.