I have a lot of problems with women like you. Firstly, your "man"? You know how many men would get slapped for saying their "woman"? Why is it such a bad thing for men yes not vice versa?

Secondly, it's his choice, not yours, and you're being a little selfish by getting upset that he wouldn't want to do it.

Thirdly, you want sympathy? What about the thousands of men that don't get to see their children because their ex doesn't want them to. What about when the woman decides to have the child but the man doesn't want it, and then he ends up having to pay child support for a mistake they both made? This world is so blind to what pains men go through, but atleast they acknowledge your pain, so don't come to a men's forum and start complaining about how you're sooo oppressed and no one appreciates you and whatever else you can imagine.


And last and probably least in my opinion...Be more careful. Take birth control pills, use double condoms or something, I don't know. Or just use other methods do have sex. I don't think the v will actually affect his sex drive, but it's still his choice to get it. It does hurt a lot from what I hear, firstly you have to shave, which if you don't like doing it, it's an annoyance, then...*cringes* they give you a numbing shot down there....I don't even like thinking about that. And then there's the after pain. That's just what i've heard though.

Slight overreaction to a question about whether it feels any different? That's all I was seeking...

Well, injections...When I had a d&c because of miscarriage after failed b/c --i would have gone through with the pregnancies though, would've been happy to, well they gave my cervix about 6 injections of novacaine and a fentanyl shot iv and still it was agony while they dilated it with sequentially larger curved dilation rods and scraped my uterus with a curved razor and bled like a stuck pig, and then I was on vicodin for 3 days because I could not stand that level of pain, and the last one was heartbreaking because I got to see the deceased fetus after basically going through bleeding hellish pain and i'm still bleeding from that one...And with my three childbirths I had one natural w/18 hours of labor, then learned my lesson and got epidurals (spinal injections) for the other two, tore from stem to stern and needed stitches, had sciatica for a month, bad hemorrohoids from pushing out a 9 pound baby on the last, and that's nowhere as bad as a c-section, so perhaps, tho doubtful, you can understand how 2 shots of novocaine would not seem so horrible...And as there is an associated death rate with tubal ligation there frankly is none for vasectomy

i cannot force him to do anything, but he does respect my feelings at this point in the game and as he's expressed concern over this i'm asking what it feels like, and overall I want him to enjoy sex but not for me to be placed at risk ever again, I guess this was a lot of trauma, and it's the only absolute b/c method, and women should not take the pill after 35 due to potentially lethal pulmonary blood clots--it's like it's ok for us to get cut scraped injected rip tear scar risk death over birth control but a man can't get two little tubes cut at the proper time? I think that's an ok solution!

I don't care if someone says "my woman"...I don't like "my health forum", "my 'ho" or something derogatory, but it's a reference point of endearment to me to say "my man"...

Getting a vasectomy should decline the feeling of the orgasm at all. How much he cums shouldn't change the amount of pleasure.

then why did you say all that other stuff?




i'm gonna tell this story to the next woman who tells me "women are stronger because they can take childbirth". Not to make fun of you or anything, I always knew it wasn't easy.



that tube cutting doesn't always last. I've heard plenty of stories about men having their tubes "wiggle around and become reattatched" or something to that extent. Then you're back in the same position. They make pills for men too you know, why don't you both take it? Then use condoms, and that's almost full-proof.



funny how everytime I mention it, people say "i don't do that". I guess you don't, I wouldn't know. Doesn't change my point though.

I had a vasectomy, it helps the pleasure! I mean, since getting one, I (we) now no longer need to fool with protection and having your mind at ease about it means we can go at it with wild abandon and never worry once! If he is done with having or trying to have kids, it's the best way to go!

Does anyone have any info on a vasectomy not working. My husband had one but never went in for the test after to make sure it worked. Should we worry or are the chances good that everything is fine?

As for pain...I just had one 14 hours ago (see my thread about it)

i had a local. The doctors and nurses were all amazed by the fact that I chose this. They repeatedly called me brave and a strong man. I really don't see what the big deal was. I would sugest that anyone who has this done goes with the local. Getting knocked out for a vasectomy just adds a risk. There is no pain during the op.

I am fine and I want to have sex already. I was told of pain and discomfort down there after the surgery and I have none of that.

If you have any questions feel free to ask, while its still fresh in my mind.

A vasectomy is merely the severing of the vas deferens, which allows the sperm to travel from the testes to the urethra. Sperm are separate from semen. Semen is produced in the cowper's gland and prostate gland. These glands combine to produce semen, which is the fluid necessary to transport the semen out the penis. The semen is only a medium to transport, sustain, and nourish the sperm.

Once a man has a vasectomy, he ejaculates normally, but his semen is without sperm. The sperm no longer travel along the same tube; they are detoured and end up going out the urine or being absorbed into the body where they die.