Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Detroit Michigan
I Wanna Be a Mommy Posted: 07-09-05 17:43pm
I am 14 and I want a baby. I know who the
daddy will be, but my baby will only get
to see the daddy in december for christmas
becuase he lives in mexico. I know my
parents will kill me if I have this baby.
What should I do??? :?:
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Ross_Bradley
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Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-10-05 10:21am
Not a good idea if your 14, where will you
get income from ? Sleepness nights etc
please re-think this
ross.
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blueroses
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Joined: 31 Jul 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Idaho
Posted: 07-31-05 01:09am
I am 27 years old with an almost-4-yr.
Old son and a 2 yr. Old daughter. 14
years old is way too young to make such a
big decision as having a baby. You
should enjoy your life while you are
young, because as soon as you have a baby,
everything changes. I love my children
dearly, but at 14 that was the furthest
thing from my mind. You have a lot to
learn about the reality of life. Babies
aren't all cuddles and tickles and smiles.
There's the late night feedings (hope
you don't like sleeping in), trips to the
doctor and/or hospital, not to mention
that babies are expensive. Diapers, wet
wipes, clothes, food, diaper rash
ointment, lotion, soap, shampoo, etc. All
add up. Please enjoy your youth...Go do
fun things with your friends...Especially
since the would-be father is in mexico for
most of the year. You won't have that
help. I hope that you make a decision
that will make you happy.
In my opinion 14 years old is way too
young! First off, if the baby only gets
to see his/her daddy once a year, that is
not going to be the most emotionally
healthy thing for him/her. Second, if
your boyfriend lives that far away, can
you really be sure that he will help
support you guys financially. By the way
how old is your boyfriend? The point is,
your boyfriend will not be there to
support both of you. This isn't good. I
know that it it possible to survive those
types of relationships, because our u.S.
Soldiers do it all the time when they are
off fighting the war. Have you ever seen
one of those 20/20 shows where the husband
is off in iraq and the wife is missing
him, and trying to raise a family? It's
really sad to see when the children are
crying out for their daddy. It really is
sad to see both sides. Just think about
long-term effects before you do anything
that may hurt you or your baby. I would
just try to stay in the relationship, even
though it is long-distance, and see if he
will move here later, or you can move
there, then eventually you guys can
decide, but I would give it a few years at
least! :) in the mean time, I would see
about babysitting, this may change your
mind!! :)
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Prince Wyte
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Joined: 31 Jul 2005 Posts: 18
I No Wut Ur Going Through Posted: 07-31-05 12:25pm
Im 15 I got my 14 year old girlfriend preg
to. She wanted the child to what you do
is tell your parents I really want this
child and with your help I could take care
of him or her. Since my gf kept the
child she sees me all the time and I help
her take care of our son but u need to
tell your boyfriend to live with you and
help you take care of your baby girl.
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cazza20
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Joined: 25 Aug 2005 Posts: 28 Location: england
Posted: 08-25-05 08:37am
I am 21 with a 3 year old boy it is hard
work.Whatever you decide make sure you are
100% certain before you do anything :lol:
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isa23
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Joined: 01 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-01-05 12:59pm
Rethink it hun, I got my oldest when I was
18 and it was really a big thing for me to
coop with the first time. Its a big
responsebility. 14 is defenite too young
beleive us.
Kisses isa
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bobbifoss
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Joined: 03 Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Minot
Posted: 10-04-05 02:00am
You yourself are just a child. My friend
tried forever to get pregnant...Since she
was 16..She finally had one at 24, now she
wishes she would have waited longer. She
gets pissed all the time cuz she can't go
out, she cant find or afford a babysitter.
All her friends go out to parties and the
bars..And she is at home with a baby.
Sure, babies are great..When you are
ready...Financially and emotionally. Like
you...The father of her child sees the kid
maybe once a year...And that is horrible
for the kid, he'll get to school when he's
older...And kids will be like who's your
dad..."umm...I dont know..I see him once a
year". Wait until you grow up and live
with the father...And besides..You are 14,
and emotional, you might change your mind
in 2 weeks and decide you hate the father.
How are you going to support this
child..You arent even old enough to quit
school to get your ged and get a job, cuz
welfare isnt cool, and doesn't pay for
that much, because they will take into
consideration your parents income, or
whomever you live with. Are your parents
or guardians going to take care of this
child all day while you are at school?
Can they afford to pay a daycare or quit
their job?
You are being selfish..Towards a child and
your parents. Just think...You'll get to
wake up numerous times every night with
the child..Then go to school tired as
heck...And being ticked off that your
friends have lives and you don't.
Like I said before..This is a huge
decision...Especially without the father
around, but if you won the lottery or
something so you can afford this
kid...Then go for it!!