I am 14 and I want a baby. I know who the daddy will be, but my baby will only get to see the daddy in december for christmas becuase he lives in mexico. I know my parents will kill me if I have this baby. What should I do??? :?:
I am 27 years old with an almost-4-yr. Old son and a 2 yr. Old daughter. 14 years old is way too young to make such a big decision as having a baby. You should enjoy your life while you are young, because as soon as you have a baby, everything changes. I love my children dearly, but at 14 that was the furthest thing from my mind. You have a lot to learn about the reality of life. Babies aren't all cuddles and tickles and smiles. There's the late night feedings (hope you don't like sleeping in), trips to the doctor and/or hospital, not to mention that babies are expensive. Diapers, wet wipes, clothes, food, diaper rash ointment, lotion, soap, shampoo, etc. All add up. Please enjoy your youth...Go do fun things with your friends...Especially since the would-be father is in mexico for most of the year. You won't have that help. I hope that you make a decision that will make you happy.
In my opinion 14 years old is way too young! First off, if the baby only gets to see his/her daddy once a year, that is not going to be the most emotionally healthy thing for him/her. Second, if your boyfriend lives that far away, can you really be sure that he will help support you guys financially. By the way how old is your boyfriend? The point is, your boyfriend will not be there to support both of you. This isn't good. I know that it it possible to survive those types of relationships, because our u.S. Soldiers do it all the time when they are off fighting the war. Have you ever seen one of those 20/20 shows where the husband is off in iraq and the wife is missing him, and trying to raise a family? It's really sad to see when the children are crying out for their daddy. It really is sad to see both sides. Just think about long-term effects before you do anything that may hurt you or your baby. I would just try to stay in the relationship, even though it is long-distance, and see if he will move here later, or you can move there, then eventually you guys can decide, but I would give it a few years at least! :) in the mean time, I would see about babysitting, this may change your mind!! :)
Im 15 I got my 14 year old girlfriend preg to. She wanted the child to what you do is tell your parents I really want this child and with your help I could take care of him or her. Since my gf kept the child she sees me all the time and I help her take care of our son but u need to tell your boyfriend to live with you and help you take care of your baby girl.
You yourself are just a child. My friend tried forever to get pregnant...Since she was 16..She finally had one at 24, now she wishes she would have waited longer. She gets pissed all the time cuz she can't go out, she cant find or afford a babysitter. All her friends go out to parties and the bars..And she is at home with a baby. Sure, babies are great..When you are ready...Financially and emotionally. Like you...The father of her child sees the kid maybe once a year...And that is horrible for the kid, he'll get to school when he's older...And kids will be like who's your dad..."umm...I dont know..I see him once a year". Wait until you grow up and live with the father...And besides..You are 14, and emotional, you might change your mind in 2 weeks and decide you hate the father. How are you going to support this child..You arent even old enough to quit school to get your ged and get a job, cuz welfare isnt cool, and doesn't pay for that much, because they will take into consideration your parents income, or whomever you live with. Are your parents or guardians going to take care of this child all day while you are at school? Can they afford to pay a daycare or quit their job?
You are being selfish..Towards a child and your parents. Just think...You'll get to wake up numerous times every night with the child..Then go to school tired as heck...And being ticked off that your friends have lives and you don't.
Like I said before..This is a huge decision...Especially without the father around, but if you won the lottery or something so you can afford this kid...Then go for it!!